Ashamed to admit i'm getting to the end of my rope with these pair.
I've always tried to bring them up to be honest, kind, helpful and well mannered. To everyone else they are. They do well at school, (ds as much as he can, trying to get him more help, but his behaviour is outstanding). Dd's behaviour the same and her work is excellent.
They treat me like SHIT and never listen to a word I say. Dd goes messing in the house, can't leave anything alone..ever. She opens food, drops it on the floor, leaves it about. She takes my things and will deny taking them, when I ask her, she'll scream her head off. Things get broken, never deliberately, just sheer couldn't-give-a-shit-ness. Last night she went messing around in the cupboards after i'd told her not to. I later went to run a bath, got it half filled when the water went cold. Checked the boiler, it was switched off, she'd knocked the switch while messing in the cupboard. Stupid things like that happen all the time. I go to get into bed..someone has spilt a drink in it, I try to wash my hair...the cup is gone, dd has used all the shampoo as bubble bath. I try to arrange my contents ins, the paperwork is gone, I try to find my bank statement, someone has moved it. Dd will bring garden toys in, start kicking footballs around the house and swinging skipping ropes about, scootering across the living room floor etc. I don't know WHY she does it, neither of them have ever been allowed to do that. It's not like I suddenly moved the goalposts (no pun intended).
Ds more or less hates me, and spends as much time in his room as he can. He won't go to bed at night and won't get up in the morning. I realise this is typical teenage behaviour but it hurts! He ruined mothers day by being an arse with me. Last week he stayed at his dad's, started talking to me online and told me to fuck off (he said it jokingly but that's not the point), he said (typed) it where a few people could see. Mostly he grunts at me, if i'm lucky.
Today in the supermarket I felt dd touch my shoulder, turned around and they were both laughing their heads off. I felt for a half price label (as you do)...there was nothing but they were still laughing. I started to get annoyed and ds eventually told me that dd had lobbed me the V.
They ended up making me cry in the supermarket. I feel like a big fat failure. I've always taught them manners and respect, i've never let them down. How can my kids be growing up like a pair of feral brats? They've never wanted for anything. When we've had no money i've sold my own things on ebay to make sure they aren't ever disappointed on a birthday or Christmas. This is not how it is supposed to be.