How often does your ex-p speak to your DC on the phone? Do have arranged times for speaking?

[TheCinnamonGiraffe]

Ex-p moved out a few weeks ago and has decided that he will visit every other weekend. He visited last weekend so isn't due to see them for another 7 days, it's pretty much the DC's bedtime now and so far I haven't managed to get hold of him all day (not unusual for him, so I am not unduly alarmed that he is hurt/had an accident).

AIBU to think that he would have called the DC's...? When we were together he only really saw them at weekends anyway (left at 6.30am and home 9 or 10pm) so it is not unusual for them not to speak to him through the week. The 2 older DC's are asking after him now.

I was wondering what other people did, pre-arranged phone times? No call's? I'm currently feeling like I have let the DC's down by not organising this in advance .

My exp only rings to speak to them if it's their birthday or Christmas morning or if he's feeling guilty about something.like another holiday or day out they're excluded from

If they ask to ring him then it's no problem but they rarely do. Yanbu to expect him to want to speak to them but he may well not feel the same.

The only contact mine have is via phone call (their dad moved away). He decided the level of contact he wanted was a weekly phone call, and we do have it on a set day at the same time, partly because I was working at the time and since then he has started working, so it makes scheduling easier. Originally he called them, but it didn't work for us (me and the children) for a few reasons, so now we phone him. He also speaks to them on their birthdays and Christmas, but again that would more than likely be arranged in advance.

Maybe once a month if DS is lucky enough for ex to answer the phone, usually only on the day he is seeing ex to discuss arrangements. Ex is too busy to talk to DS any other time.

My DD has 50:50, one week with me, one with her dad.

He calls twice while she's here at set times - they speak for half an hour or so each call.

I don't have set times to call her; she calls if and when she wants to - sometimes a week goes by without a call, other weeks it is 2/3 times

It took trial and error to reach this point, and I'm sure it will change again as she gets older, too

ex dp and I have been apart for 12 years, he rings when he likes and likewise ds can call him whenever,,however he has every other weekend with ds and half of all school holidays xx

DSD tried phoning her mum once to find the bitch had changed her number

That was a bad night

My xp phones 3 times a week on the week he doesnt see ds, set days but no set time.
And twice during the week when he has him that wkend, again usual days but could be anytime.
Phone call last between 10 seconds and about 1 minute!!!!
If we are busy or ds is out and about (hes 10) then i dont answer and will get ds to phone back.
Ds never asks to phone his dad.
This has gone on for 9 years now!

Thank you for your replies. I had a non committal 1 line text late yesterday evening.