Lack of focus

[monstermum44]

I have an 18 year old son who seems to be giving up on education .his father lives abroad and I have told him to get a job or move to his dads . So hard to know what to do . .? Tough love

Are you suggesting moving to his dad's is some kind of punishment?

No not at all . He has frequently used the option of going to his dads when he doesn't like what he is being asked to do .

Is it something that is possible/has been discussed with Dad? Could he be giving up because he wants to move to Dad's?

DD is in year 12 and can get very stressed about exam pressure, deadlines etc. And the thought of continuing education is very scary...

I take on board your comments thank you . I think he has lost vision and just doesn't realise how hard the real world is . I'm sure well work things out . They have to leave sometime!
My ex has always been so unpleasant to me so it is hard thinking of my son being with him full time .I know he is our son .

I'm not sure what your ex's unpleasantness has to do with this. I think you are trying to help your son find a solution? Have you asked if his dad can/wants to have him? The idea of giving your son the ultimatum of getting a job or getting out of your house and moving abroad sounds a bit odd in my view.