Do u ever get lonely and fed-up being single, but are too afraid to try again?

[PiperBeeley]

I had a really really bad exp with the last man (i hesitate to call him that) i was with. That all ended almost 3 years ago, and i do find myself pretty lonely at times, but im almost unable to even say hello to men, im so nervous, im ok (not great, but ok) with men i already know, friends etc. but i was out with friends recently and a really good looking man came to say hello, he was lovely, but i suddenly found myself telling him "im not interested, but have a good night" my friend said he looked gutted, and i felt bad the next day, but i just dont see myself ever being able to get passed the horrors of my ex, i 'see' him in every man i meet am i a hopeless case?.....

Poor you,it sounds as if you had a really bad time of it. You are definitely not a hopeless cause, just someone who has been really hurt. Some people bounce back quickly, others don't. I broke up with my ex 5 years ago and have only just started thinking I might consider even vaguely thinking about meeting someone! Maybe you just need a bit more time or maybe you need come counselling to get over things. Don't despair and don't feel bad for feeling the way you do. It is perfectly normal.

Im in a similar siuation and really think I may need some counselling to get past this one. I have major trust issues but its got so bad now that I actually feel like Im cutting myself off from life. You are not alone