School mums prefer DS's dad?

[VaVaBroom]

I trust someone will tell me I'm being ridiculous but have been thrown into a spin by the fact that ex who collects son twice a week from school seems to get approached about playdates while yours truly is generally ignored or treated quite warily by other mums. I was expecting to make friends when DS started school (he's in Year 1) but I hadn't reckoned on the fact that I'm the only lone parent in his class/year - everyone else is married or coupled up. I've tried to arrange playdates myself but they tend to peter out and I wonder if I'm coming across as slightly desperate and/or mad? I can't always collect DS as trying to keep work going, and his father is more confident and has more money than me so can't help thinking perhaps he's a more 'normal' proposition to approach than I am. Ex and I on good terms and happy to say that DS has made good school friends - but has anyone else experienced this weird kind of jealousy/insecurity?

I doubt they prefer him to you, but I think mums are quite flirtacious around men. When me and my husband split one of the mums asked him to get together with the kids one aftrernoon. He didnt as we both thought it was a little odd as she was married.
Its difficult being a working mum as you dont get to do all of the school runs but in my opinion its best not to get too involved as it can get quite clicky, they have their little groups.
Im sure you have nothing to worry about, and if they refuse you then its their loss.
Sometimes though if your thinking your being left out then you give this approach and maybe they think your not interested?
May just mention another playdate and see what they say. You too can be confident and having money has nothing to do with it.
Good luck :)

I am separated and several mums at DS school have been really supportive. One way they have done this is to talk to stbexh when he does drop off and pick up a couple of times per week. Ex loves it - is always crowing to me about it. In fact it keeps the peace and it helps DS to see that "his" friends (and their mums) speak to his dad. We then all have a childish snigger about ex's new clothes or the scrubby beard he seems to be growing!!

It might be the days that he picks him up if they are the same days of the week each time? It's weird but I've found that some days are more popular for having other kids over to play! OTOH I don't think you're being paranoid- there does seem to be this thing of women thinking it's sooooo amazing for a dad to be looking after his own kids so they get a lot of positive attention. It's kind of pathetic but that just seems to be how it is.

The reasonable fair part of me wants to help you see that these women are probably just trying to help in what they believe they understand is a difficult situation and probably p*ed off that their husbands don't do as much as they think your ex does. The not very reasonable part of me wants to point out that yet again, single dads are heroes and single mums to be viewed with suspicion. To be honest, it's probably a bit of both. The good thing is that your kids are probably helped massively by the fact other parents accept him, so take - yet another - deep breath, try not to mind and try to remember that single mums are heroes too xx

Thanks to all of you for your really helpful comments!