Awesome. Exs new partner (and ow who ruined my life) is pregnant. Reduction in csa and contact?

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Aware I sound bitter, but quite frankly I am! Split last may due to affair- shes now pregnant. Fucking great. He only sees our son (14 months) eow as he lives so far away. What are the chances contact is going to drop significantly when the baby is born? (I hate him, but credit where credit is due- hrs a good dad)

Not to mention unfair on the new baby that daddy fucks off eow to see their half sibling

And now to be practical- how much does maintenance drop with a new baby? I'm going to struggle regardless.

Anyone else done this?

Hey when I had my maintainance calculated they take off 10% of his wage for each child before calculating what maintainance I was entitled.

Hi, yes your money will go down....depends how much he's giving you tbh.
Does he come to your house to see his ds everyother weekend then? How come he doesn't take him to his place?

i think you will be entitled to 15% of 85% of his earnings once the baby is born x

Hi there, my DCs' dad had a new baby recently. Despite the fact we've been split up for 8 years, and split up before he met is new partner, it still really upset me - more than I would have expected. Like you, I was worried that he would neglect our two DCs, and money would be tighter, etc. Tbh though, so far it's not been too bad. He has kept up the same contact schedule with my kids. He pays me by direct debit (amount calcualted from CSA website, but not collected via CSA) and hasn't as yet asked to reduce it. His flat is much too small though, so they're looking to move - that's probably the main bad thing.

But my DCs are very fond of their new baby brother. I can't share their enthusiasm but it is nice for them.

I think ellenjames has it right though if you do go via CSA for money, they knock of 15% of what he earns (net) to start with, then give you 15% of the remainder for one DC.

So just to get this clear if EXP has a dc with someone else my money for DS is reduced. Surely my ex will have to inform the csa?? Also is it not you just Estranged children e.g children not living with dad they get the deduction for? Gosh my days of getting £400 a month for my son will be numbered with CSA fee and if my ex decides to breed again, (let's hope she is baron) oh well!

Eternal, he doesn't have to "breed again" if he moves in with someone who has kids it will reduce in that circumstance aswell

Be grateful we only got £5 a week for DSD from BM

My xp moved in with his gf and her 4 kids so £100 of his wages isn't used in the calculation for my maintenance!!!!!

Omg I had no idea, that could be a scam for certain men boys!

Well we'll see when this baby is born. We don't do csa (just use the guidelines) as so far we are amicable.

As an aside, I'm starting work again soon. Can I split the cost of child are with him? Is that what maintenance covers because it doesn't seem fair- after child are comes out I'm barely better off than on benefits!

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You will struggle to get half the cost of childcare from your ex. You'll probably get some help from tax credits, but maintenance doesn't cover childcare, as it's seen as the responsibility of the resident parent/parent who gets the child benefit. A tad unfair IMO but I'd rant all day on this if I let myself

You're best to get the cost of childcare reimbursed from tax credits - they should pay 70% of it. And then get whatever you can from your ex as a general contribution to DD's costs. Tax credits will only reimburse you for 70% of what you pay for - so if your ex directly pays for some of them, you'll get less tax credits (and he won't get any of the cost back because DD doesn't live with him). You could see if he can help out by having DD a bit whilst you work - unless he's working all the same hours himself?

I do like you and ex pays me the CSA amount but directly. Tbh I don't think he knows that the amount should have gone down now he has a new baby, and I am not about to tell him . Your ex might not know either, or might think that it is right to go on paying you the same amount, so I wouldn't bring it up if I were you.