Christening - to invite or not my ex-P. Advice?

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Hi - advice really, please. I'm thinking of having my daughter baptised. I dont know whether to invite my ex-P. To put it in context, he left me when I was 6 wks pregnant and has never visited my daughter, despite being asked by me several times and urged by his mum. He does pay for her, although it's really not enough. I always feel really upset and hurt and a bit panicky if I'm honest when I think of him (he was abusive towards the end of our relationship). However, I do want to try and give my daughter some kind of relationship with her dad - if he'll co-operate. Question is: should I invite him to her baptism? I know it'll upset me if he's there and - a bad part of me, no doubt - hates the thought of him getting to enjoy the good things while treating me like sh1t and abandoning his daughter. But, perhaps in the future, my daughter will appreciate that he was there.

Sorry to ramble. Just wonder what people think, esp if you've been in a similar situation.

thanks,
SB

HI SB
How old is your daughter?
If she is very young then I wouldn't bother invite him . She wouldn't appreciate it anyway-- and it might stress you out on what is a special day for both you and your daughter

But I think it is worth maybe making the effort at some point, maybe on a less 'emotional' day than a baptism?

Just a thought anyway

Agree with beejay. Why risk spoiling a special day?

Hi, I think you're both right. I had a good mull over the whole issue last night and concluded it was our special day and there was no point ruining it. My daughter's 9 months old and never met her dad, so as you say I doubt she'd appreciate it anyway.

SBx

Sounds like you have made the right decision. I hope you enjoy the day...

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