Alone

[AmIthatbad]

I need to know if anyone else feels the same.

I know we go over all the good points of being single parents, and I really, really try to dwell on all the positives.

But right now, all I want is someone to put their arms around me and kiss me - even on the cheek - that would do.

I go to work, I have a semi-social life, but I have not had a proper realtionship since 2004. That's 8 feckin years.

Now,I'm in my late 40s, I'm invisible to men.

I have registered on dating sites and all I get is old men winking at me.

When I go out, I never even get a first glance, let alone a second.

Can this be it?

Should I resign myself to the fact that I am unloveable.

It is hard with no money and little/no support...I was lucky with 'me' time, and, to a degree, a little bit of money. However, a relationship even in the best circumstances requires effort, and that effort diminishes as you get lazier older...

I have no advice really..but I can make a good

It would be good to have some kind of childcare co-op, where you took turns to give each other a break.

A child care co-op... now theres an idea with legs

am happy meantime with a communal cuppa

AmI Good morning and I know it's early but here [bubiscuit] have one of these...

Keep your chin up..

Coffee please!

My post wasn't completely honest last night I do have a partner but it's very part time because of all the things I listed. I can't deal with the part time nature of it and am thinking of ending it.

Which makes me analyse why I'd do that ... hence my post

It's because I can't see how I can make another relationship work when I have a priority of 3DC. My ex didn't really do 'family' and I think I view all men in the same way so don't like to ask/involve him etc. Because it's part-time, he gets on with his life and we then find we've both committed to other stuff and cannot get together. I feel single.

bloomin eck tt that's a bit disingenuous
some of us really are full time single you know, with no other fecker to help out

contemplates pool, calms down
if he's not adding positives to your life then i'd reconsider
you don't have to have a partner you know, the only way I'd bother is if he liked ironing made my life lighter iyswim

It wasn't meant to mislead. I haven't seen the 'partner' for a month and don't know when I will next see him. I'm at the point of realising I am effectively single.

I need help and can't find a way out,can anyone advice me.I'am married but consider myself 2 be a single parent,I have one daughter from a previous marriage.Idon't no were 2 start,the thing is I have been married almost 4 years .My situation is so bad,that I don't no what 2 do.I have no money and have not had anything 2 eat for the last 2 wks..My husband has never given me any money since we have been married.I have been living off 80 pounds child benefit and 200 pounds child maintence.That's all my daughter and I live off a month. after paying for school dinners,travel cost for the both of us and phone bill theirs not much left..My daughter and I are suffering,we are not allowed 2 sit down stairs and watch tv or allowed in any rooms...my daughter and I stay in our bedroom all day.Nobody talks 2 us.I can't use the washing machine ,so I have 2 hand wash my clothes and hange them in the shower as I'm not allowed in the garden..my mother in law tells me she prayers to god that my daughter and I die.I asked my husband if we can cliam tax credits as it would help me out,I told him that we were only entitled to 40 pounds and that it would help me pay for my daughters school dinners but he does not sign as his parents have told him not to.I can't claim anything as I'm married 2 him.I need glasses but can't afford the,I can't afford medicine I need,can't afford 2 go 2 the dentice,so I suffer.U must be thinking,just leave but its not that easy.My daughters 8 and I feel for her,she adds up things in myshopping basket,if she thinks it cost 2 much,she start putting some off the food back.pleasehelp,advice needed can I get financial assistance

Sharan - you shouldn't live like this. Can you talk to your GP/health visitor about these difficulties. You need to leave this situation

I have been looking for work but can't find anything within my daughters school hours.I have no family near by that can help.I get no benefits.I'll I want is a job.

My GP does nt want 2 know

Sharan - try posting again in the Relationships section. There are some very wise mn'ers who could offer practical help & advice.

You sound to be in an a controlling relationship, being bullied by not only your husband but also other members of your family. This is awful & wrong and I wish I could help you I really do.

If you do not take steps to find help in real life then you and your daughter will only suffer more and more.

I imagine that if you are not eating properly then even thinking about making changes must be hard
I am in West Yorkshire and if you are anywhere near (or even not that near) to me I will happily drive to you and bring you some food. I only have half a tank of petrol but plenty of food.

Your post has made me so sad, please let me know if I can help. Also, please re-post in relationships where others can maybe offer more practical advice than I can. This is a situation caused by your husband, and not because you are a single parent (even though you effectively are - but without ANY of the support the rest of us get.)

MisskeithLemon,Thank you for your kind words

I mean it sharan - you really can't carry on as you describe. Anything I can do to help I will, your post has touched me and reminded me of an friend I used to know.
x

My 60 year dad has just got it on with my 60 year old best mate; there is hope!

I moved to Coventry 2 years ago, I'm a single mum of two and I'm so lonely its unreal all of my family and friends are in London. It's not easy to make friends when there's not much I'm able to do while my sons are at school and nursery. Now I'm pregnant again and it all feels new to me for some reason. Wish I had some friends to talk to really