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Exp wants contact after 2 years?!

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Mentalcowgirl · 30/03/2012 22:07

Hi all, I'll try and be brief my ds is 4 (5 in July) was with his dad until he was 2, ended badly, in short he got sectioned and was not allowed to come anywhere near me and ds, panic alarm fitted, my address was on the system as an emergency.

This all died down he moved away for a year and a bit with new gf all restrictions lifted etc. cue now he and gf have split up he's moved back and he texted me saying he wanted contact with ds, I promptly told him over my dead body (to little too late!) he hasn't paid maintenance since last sept, 11!

Am I doing the right thing? My ds sometimes gets upset that his friends have dads and he doesn't but he wants for nothing he is loved by me (sooo much) and my family

Help please!!

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GuiltyYourHonour · 30/03/2012 23:10

You are doing the right thing.

hairytaleofnewyork · 31/03/2012 05:55

While child maintenance and contact should not be dependent on each other, this man should not have unsupervised contact with his DC, so you are doing the right thing.

Supervised contact (by professionals) is the only option.

Meglet · 31/03/2012 12:20

If he want's to see him he has to jump though some very big hoops. A contact centre would be the only way I would even think about it.

Unless I had a legal letter I would ignore everything and inform the police he was trying to get in touch. You don't know if he's likely to kick off again. 2yrs isn't long, my XP went 3yrs ago but he's apparently hitting his latest girlfriend. Leopard / spots etc.....

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