Think my bitterness is clouding my judgement... wwyd?

[paranoidandsunburnt]

XP and I have an every other weekend arrangement. DD has SEN and finds changes in routine very traumatic.

XP has a fiance from the USA and went to visit her family for 2 weeks last month. DD didn't understand why he went and didn't take her too. She had a complete breakdown and her behaviour at school was so bad she had a couple of days off. It was a bit of a shock tbh.

Anyway he's back now and things are back to 'normal'. On usual rotation, this easter is my weekend and DH and I have plans with the DC. XP wants me to let him have DD for that w/e so he can take her on holiday with his fiance (he has a week off but fiancee has no holiday time left).

I said yes initially but now I am thinking he's out of order expecting me to once again change my plans and everything else around his convenience. But I am SO BITTER it scares me. WWYD?

It's your weekend, stick to your plans.

What would DD benefit from doing?

If she felt left out last time, it might be nice for her to be included in a holiday with them this time. But if you have plans that are important to you and can't be shifted, then it would be fair enough to say so to your ex and not swap.

If however your plans could just as easily be done a different weekend and DD would enjoy going with her dad, I'd agree, but make it clear that you're doing him a favour and expect similar flexibility in the future if there are dates you'd like to swap round for any reason.