Need a pep talk/kick up the bum please.

[toptramp]

I am sick of being alone. I am OK Cupid and POF but not much interest. I fancy lots of men at work but I am far too shy and frightened to go out. I am fed up of people telling me to be happy single. I have been single now really for years and yes I do enjoy it (especially before dd when I could do what I wanted) but it is natural to want love and affection isn't it?
Apparently I am attractive and I have a job, career etc. Agggr. I just don't get why I am always alone.

I can see what you mean - although I have no idea what POF means? (sorry!)
What's your circle of friends like? A mixture of male and female? Singles and couples? Do you always go out to the same places? Has anyone tried to set you up for a blind date (even just for a laugh?), or a few people off here (as well as friends of mine) seem to have done well off internet dating sites.

Good luck! xxxx

Ha POF is plenty of fish a dating website and sites like this are free, anyone can join so you can imagine what they are like. Maybe join a site which you have to pay for? That way people are a little more serious to meeting up and dating.
I joined a couple of days ago and the messages i received were so rude and it seems they are only on there for one thing.
I feel the same lately and Iv put a few threads on here and you get some really helpful responses. Its nice to chat on here.
I am too fed up with people telling me I will bump into someone unexpected like in tesco or something haha. They are just trying to make us feel better I guess.

Tesco? Apparently there is a psycho in POF who asks his unsuspected pray to meet at Tesco, saying you don't need to know anythibg aboit him, just pop in Tesco and he willl find you so... beware :-D

I am ashamed to admit this...but it's got to be done. i once did meet a guy in a supermarket and took him home It was Sainsbury's though and it was quite late. I was a real floozy in my student days.

toptramp - i am in exactly the same boat. i tried guardian soulmates and did not go on even one single date - no one i contacted was interested, no one, it was humiliating and i vowed never to do the online thing again but it seems like it might be the only bloody way to meet anyone at all! i have no idea what the hell is going on with me but no one asks me out at all and i thought i was ok!

Can I join the club. No advice, sorry.

Just empathy

I wish I knew the answer, I really do.

I tried OK Cupid (pointless), My Single Friend (pointless) and Guardian Soulmates (still pointless). However, on Lovestruck I got very lucky . I think it's a case of stumbling across the right person, even when you are on a dating site. Lovestruck is the only site that I actually met up with guys, about 6 or 7 over a couple of months before I met DP.

Don't give up hope, and don't rely on free sites either...I think you might get what you pay for.

BTW, I was happy single too...but I am so much happier now with the RIGHT guy (I'd have been much less happy with the wrong one - might as well have stayed married!)