Bored and lonely being single!

[JessyJ34]

Im a single parent that had to stop working after my husband left, well I carried on but had to stop about 6 months.
Im at home all day and Im finding it so hard as Im used to being quite busy.
I get very bored and by the evening whilst the children are in bed I feel quite lonely. I joined a dating site yesterday but I dont think its for me.
I dont know how to get myself out of this huge rut and I dont want to eat myself fat again out of bordom.
I dont have much money and need some tips on what to do with my children that doesnt cost and also some tips for me to somehow get a life also without cost!
If anyone has some good tips or is in the same position as me wold be good to hear from you :-)

Can you find a new job that's compatible with childcare that's available?

Toddler groups? Meet up with other friends with kids? Offer sleepover swaps with another family or lone parent so you get some evenings off?

Cheap things to do with DCs - out for a walk, cooking, junk modelling/art activities at home, gardening, visiting friends, local swimming pool

Long story about the job front Im in a bit of a viscious circle as Im trying to keep our home.
I really want to go to college in sept to gain a qualification to earn money at the mo I dont have any qualification or experience and its hard trying to get someone to give me a chance. Its like an estate agent, I would like to do this but who is going to give me a chance at 34?
All groups are mornings whilst my youngest is at nursery.
We walk alot. Sounds bad but I cant wear a swim suit too embarrassed. We bake some times. All friends are at work.
I made another thread days ago about my ex and it turned into a convo about me anyway I am planning a camping trip, which I never thought Id do.
I dont have any lone parent friends to envite their children. I think mine are too young for sleep overs and they are nightmare sleepers, wake about 3 4 times a night, we play musical beds most nights.
Is there such a thing as single parent clubs, surely there are?

I would say keep on with the dating. And there is a dating thread on here for internet dates etc, which is very lets say informative!! I tried both okcupid and pof, before joining OASIS, and that for me has been the best one, and at least you get plenty to chat to, or i did anyway, you can be choosy and allow those who you want to to contact you.

It wont always be this way. I am too a single parent, but living temporaily at mum's as only recentlyish split from my husband. I now have a new home to move into and can start getting my life on track.

In this lovely weather we have been having it is nice to go for a walk in the park and watch them play, while you sit with a glass of water/coke/wine (delete as applicable) And there are toddler groups. Have you tried your local sure start centre?

And i didnt think online dating was for me, but so far so good and it has helped me get over my ex and regain my confidence!

You could go onto your mumsnet local and look at the meet ups? Worth a go?

Where abouts are you? Maybe there are other single Mums in the saMe situation near you? I work with a few girls who are single so we go out together, My job pays penuts but its much more than just a job, its a social thing as well. Any job for even a few hours a week get you out there.

Try Gingerbread to meet other lone parents, or possibly your local sure start if there is one.

Well done you on the online dating, I know it can work.
Thats good news about your new home. I stayed in the house and trying my very best to keep it.
The weather has been lovely and Iv tryed to get out as much as we can. I get a bit lonely in the evening and weekends whilst their with their dad. I dont have any single friends and the ones in relationships are busy with them.
Im glad dating has regained your confidence and you are moving forward, Im trying, just got myself into a bit of a rut.
Im new to this site so dont really know where everything is etc and Im a bit rubbish on the internet to be honest.

I will try those two!
Im in Newport Gwent!
I would love to work but im in a bit of a situation where it wouldnt benefit me until I know where I am with the house.

Oh no where near me. Are the kids school age? If so what are the Mums like? I know people hate Facebook but I've spent many nights in talking with friends on there.

My youngest starts school in sept.
Im on facebook too and Im the same I will have a little nose and a natter.
Mums are very mummsie, they have their own click.

Hiya Jesse, I'm just outside Cardiff and my husband has just left me. Would love to meet up. I work in Newport too.