The way things are panning out, my children's father (two under 5) seems to be losing all interest in his children and rarely contacts them and is currently six months nil contact (see other thread).
So I ask myself, should I be applying for sole custody now? We have never discussed custody issues as he has no interest in contact it seems and cannot accommodate them at his home 200 miles away anyway (he is a hoarder, his home is unsafe with no facilities).
What benefits would my gaining full sole custody offer?
I have absolutely zero knowledge of custody and will do some research online later today but for now ask parents their views.
Occasionally, I have little worries that he may find someone else who has their own home and she may press him to access the children more and whilst I do want them to have a relationship with their father, I also have no doubt that he could potentially take the children away for a week if he met someone who could accommodate them, and never bring them back. Because he has threatened similar before, to the point of manhandling me out of his car at a layby, locking my then baby in his car, and driving off angry. Leaving me distraught in the middle of bloody nowhere on a dual carriage layby with no handbag so no money to get home, no phone, who knows what coul dhave happened. I ended up tramping over a boggy moor in my flipflops to walk 2 miles home rather than flag down a car and risk becoming a statistic.
So, whilst he does have the potential to be irresponsible, it would not be fair of me to use that against him in custody issues. I just need to know if my gaining sole custody is best for the children, or I should just leave it?
Thankyou