tired of Being lonely

[TheHumancatapult]

that's it in a nut shell . Know I'm fortunate that my dc are old enough to talk to /with

But like this weekend I won't see another person especially as wet . If we got to park I may talk to another parent but often not as people took kids their with friends

Same on holiday I don't miss the nigglinh of pretending to be happy with a b/f ,dp or a dh while sniping at each other and do appreciate the fact I can make all choices

It just seems 10 times worse as moved here just before Xmas and the patents in playground at school know each other .and few talked to done the sidewards think at my wheelchair or when they realise that I have a younger child not at the local school ( he has Sn )

Am just sick and tired of bring lonely infact if I did not go into town to shops etc I not see talk to another adult

If not for Internet probably not talk to another adult till head up to Scotland on holiday in April

I completely understand and feel the same - i won't speak to another adult all weekend either and it's really hard. Wish I could help, at least we do have MN and I do try to think this is just a lonely period in my life and it won't always be this way. Hopefully someone will be along with advice, just wanted you to know you weren't alone

Yep I feel the same!

My weekends have felt like this by and large for 7 years since my son was 5 months when his Dad and I split up.

It can get a bit much.

I did however manage to mow the lawn even though Joshua was home so that was a breakthrough lol.

I do Buddhist chanting but it is difficult to get much done when my son is at home at the weekends!

That's the thing we can and do go out and do things , feels far less lonely being out than does being in but even that's getting more and more lonely

Sandy trouble is I can see it stew thing out in front of me for years

But have no clue how to start getting out and meeting people and find on holidays the adults are their with partners , other friends or family

you could try one of those single parent holidays?

have you seen anyone you like at school gates yet who you could suggest going for a coffee or something?

btw well done equinox re lawn mowing and the chanting sounds v interesting and relaxing

I'm taking my 3 boys away to camber sands for a week in June and although it's great coz they're all old enough to bugger off by themselves and have fun, where does that leave me..........
Bored!!!!!!

Sandy I did look at a few but second mentioned the wheelchair they said where they stay what they do etc etc is not suitable for wheelchair user

No not yet but most the patents verb together since dc in reception where we gatecrashed into y4 upsetting sone as we got a place when they know others been waiting longer ( we had the higher critera ) so am getting bit of the cold shoulder

Dee that's my sort of problem that or in left to keep ds3 happy while ds1 , ds2 and dd are busy or even when dd and ds3 are playing on a park I end up just watching ( they tend to be mum were playing )

Right now I Want to sit and bawl . Which for anyone that knows me will know how unurusl it is for me

Double whammy I'm finding is I can not just pop In as acess is an obvious issue

Yes sandyboots the chanting is nice I can recommend it if you can spare the time to go to meetings the website is www.sgi-uk.org. There are local meetings most parts of the UK.

Not intending to hijack the thread here lol.

I hope we all get through our weekend nicely and it gets better and better for us!

thanks equinox will take a look

thehumancatapult not surprising you feel like that sometimes, it must be bloody hard - being a lp is hard enough but with a sn child too its a bloody achievement to be coping as well as you are. Give yourself a pat on the back and some chocs and are from me
some of the parents at the school will be ok once you get to know them, it can take a while though when dc start in a later year but it'll get better.

have you tried a MN meetup group near you?

i was planning the xmas one , but it was not accessibie but it is understandable as in minority of I think 2 and the other can walk a bit

Did look but few nearer hae diddy dc . But have met a few from Mn though who ar elovely people

Am feeling but better was just tired and fed up early night called for

Agree with Sandy, you have a lot to deal with human so no wonder you get lonely at times. Its an awful feeling. I moved last year with my 3ds but I did move back close to family and town where I grew up so at least I recognised a lot of people. I felt v selfconscious at school gates for ages too as my ds1 started P4 and all the mums had established friendships. However now I go to toddler groups and know more mums from nursery as well. Even still occasionally i feel v out of place especially at weekends.
I found joining a rambling club helped me. Sometimes I feel that so much effortprsistance to socialise s required but i know it will pay off.
It will get better and there will be up and down days. lack of sleep makes you feel even more vulnerable. Pamper yourself and have an early night. :)

It very hard at times, can feel like a lot of days and nights of not speaking with another adult. Have tried the local mn meet-ups but having no luck. Can anyone advise me if they know of any local meets in S.Tipperary?.
I know have to make the effort to get out more. Am considering doing some voluntary work one morning a week for local cancer support. I have just started a computer course one morning a week which I am enjoying, am not working much at this time so feels like a lot of space to fill. I just hope in the future it will feel easier than this.