Anyone dumped during pregnancy?

[firstfroggy]

I am 35 and 17 weeks pregnant and last week I was dumped by my boyfriend. Despite planning this pregnancy and being desperately in love at the time (and also the fact he is already father to a three year old), he couldn't get his head around this pregnancy, particularly after i refused to have an abortion and has told me he doesn't love me anymore
and doesn't want the baby.
Obviously I'm devastated, but the more people I talk to, the more common this sounds.
There is no chance of a reconciliation now, though he claims he'll be there for the baby when it's born. But I just wanted to hear some positive stories or advice from any other mums
out there who have gone through a pregnancy and birth alone.
Thank you

Utter bullshit callista
Reported.

I was 5 months pregnant when my children's dad left. The first 6-9 months were pretty awful, although we were able to stay where we were living my income became zero over night and took literally months (6 to be precise) to get anything sorted. Luckily I had lots of neighbours etc willing to help, other wise I would have not been able to give birth in hospital. Luckily due to all the backdated tax credits etc we actually managed a bloody good Xmas where we introduce so many new memory making traditions which we still have.
For me though life couldn't be better, I found a job I love which fits round my children without question, started a degree through the open uni and found a love of child education which I use to supplement my children's learning.
And the extra benefit is that we no longer have to creep round the house in near silence most of the day to avoid waking the sleeping Bear. Such a relief which was clearly visible in my eldest, who was 3 when her dad left.
I wish you and your children well in your futures together.

I know the thread is old, but I googled being dumped while pregnant and it came up. I am also in a similar situation. I'm 21 weeks and I thought my boyfriend and I were building a life together, but once I fell pregnant and needed him more than anything, he insisted he didn't want to be with me but would be there for the child. I spent many weeks crying and confused because I really believed we were in love. To make it worse, he started playing mind games: one day he's saying he loves me and his child won't be raised by another man and promising that we would be a family; the next minute him telling me he doesn't want to be with me, we don't work, and one day I'll meet a nice guy! The rejection and betrayal is nothing I can describe. I had to be admitted into the hospital at 16 weeks because my chest was blocked and my baby was at risk, and while I was at the hospital, he sent me a message saying he wants nothing to do with me. After that, my blood pressure shot up and I was soon placed on miscarriage watch. What's sad is that before he came to a final decision that I'm now this repulsive human that he didn't want to be with, he would spend time with us and rub oils on my belly and talk to his daughter, now he isn't doing any of that and it feels terribly lonely! My daughter kicks and it's so much fun, he knows she does but he hasn't come to at least try experience it. He makes FAR more money than me, but instead of buying things for the baby or helping me with medical bills like he said he would, he sends pictures of all this new furniture he has bought for himself and he's shopping more now. The most painful things financially is when I had to pay lots of money at the hospital and he said he would help, but lied about sending even half, then bought his THIRD Mercedes-Benz two days later! I felt so cheated and shortchanged then that I accepted I was a single parent, and started budgeting as such. I've bought my daughter clothes and furniture and will be covering her medical bills by myself, which isn't fair because he promised the child would lack nothing, but his actions don't match. We have known each other and been together for a while so I don't understand what it is that made him reject me like I am nothing. I never dreamed I would ever be a single parent, I cried so much I would need to leave work or be late for appointments, but after 20 weeks I promised myself I would stop crying, for my daughter. I hope those who went through these kinds of situations have managed to win and have stories of hope for new moms like me.

I asked him to leave after being screamed at by him. I packed his things and put them by the door he refused to leave. The next day (as in Thursday this week) he assaulted me then called his friends and made out like he dumped me. I have blocked him on all channels but also cannot stop crying as I’m scared of being a single mom. He said he wanted to build a family. My own mom died when I was 7 and I have no family support. Scared and alone is an understatement.

My DS’s father broke up with me when I found out I was pregnant. He also told me my baby had ruined his life (my son wasn’t born at this point ) and threatened suicide if I told anyone he was the father (obvious given we were together ) so I did it on my own. It was hard (and still is!) but my DS is worth it. Try to find other people like friends or family to be excited with because trust me, any man who can leave you while you’re pregnant is not some you want to be with!

I’m just glad that children get 80% of their intelligence from their mother as DS wouldn’t stand a chance otherwise given my ex’s logic!

Thanks for this thread, it has given me hope. Am 29 weeks pregnant today with my 1st child post ivf with my husband. We were at a friend’s bbq tonight and I was talking about how the baby needs to sleep in the same room for 6 months and he said don’t you mean your room. Then he declared to them that he’d moved his stuff into the other roomt ready as he couldn’t bear the sight of the cot and would be sleeping in there from now on? When our friends started to call him out on it he went on to say he never wanted the child and would have nothing to do with it until it was 6 and could converse with him properly. I would have thought he was joking but he went on to admit that he had kept the child a secret from his family and friends and had only gone through with the ivf to please me so I think it’s pretty clear that this is game over. I just don’t get why some en are so useless.

My partner left me 2 weeks ago that same day I found out I was pregnant I told him and he blocked my number found out he went back to his 3 kids and ex didn’t hear from for a few days as he wouldn’t reply to any of my msgs then I get a msg he can’t be a father and blah blah but asked me to have an abortion and I said no after that we didn’t speak for a week and he started texting and ringing say he made a mistake he didn’t mean anything he said and that he was going to support me and the baby well that last about 4 days then my number was blocked again his reading my msg but not replying. How can a man be so cruel I am struggling to deal with all this I’m breaking apart I can’t stop crying I don’t understand how someone who says they love you can just stop talking to you even when they know your pregnant.