what should i do ??

[Twin14mummy]

Hi just look for some advise really

I am a single mother of twin boys how are 2.5 they have very little contact with their dad as he a got a terrible gambling problem. But we mange ok have our ups and downs and I love them to pieces.

My problem is even though it a good thing is that vie been offer one of the few places a place to do midwifery full time.

This is defo something I want to do as but I can?t decide if I should or not. I currently only work 17 hr at a job I hate but allows me to have 4 day weekends with my boys and if I take this place then I will be studying 9-4 5 days a week and then more when I am home. . I really want to do this course but I feel so guilty I would be a bad mum as they have so little family in there life and I would be depriving them even more. and advise welcome plz

Many single parents manage working full-time and children, so you shouldn't feel guilty. I would be more concerned about the practical side though. How will you manage childcare for two under-fives? Have you got cover in case one or both gets ill? And wouldn't you have to work shifts on placement - do you have someone who is willing to have the children if you are doing a late night shift? Also, once you have completed the course and are working as a midwife, how will you deal with all the shift work?

Do you currently work in a related area? I have studied with a young child and imo it's more demanding than normal f/t work as you have the pressure of deadlines and learning lots of new skills. Have you looked into what financial support you'd get on the course and if you can realistically meet your outgoings?

Have you looked into what the hours would be like once you're qualified? Would imagine it would mostly be shift work at least while you're junior. You won't find childcare for that unless you have v supportive family nearby.

I'd go for it
Who has your children for the 17 hours you currently work?
You must have thought all this through before you applied
And to begin with 9-4 sounds ideal to fit around kids
Obviously you must have your parents for childcare if you're considering a career involving night shifts

Thanks guys for ur advise make. I applied because it what I really want to do but didn't think I would get in so thought I try any way. And when it's shift my mum who up in Aberdeen has agreed to come down to look after the boys and hopefully in the second year possible see if I can transfer up there.

I would definitely try to go for it, whilst it may be a struggle to start with, you will reap the rewards for years to come doing a job that you actually want to do.
How long is the course? Is there a way to drop back to part time if you find the study load and home chores too much?

contact the university you have been offered a place at, go through to student support and ask to speak to someone about everything you are entitled to while you study. This could be a place for your boys at an on campus subsidised nursery (down to £11 per day in some places!) as well as hardship funds, grants for single parents, a mentor, study support etc. It used to be my job to help out disadvantaged students and honestly you will get so much when you ask - if you don't get a helpful person on your first call, call again. Make an appointment with a student finance advisor etc. It is definitely worth it, and you can definitely do it! Good luck!

Do it. I am a single mum and a nurse and work shifts. It is fine and the NHS have a family friendly policy which means you can have fixed shifts.