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st.patrick's day headache!

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joysofmotherhood · 15/03/2012 21:26

Hi, in a nutshell family politics. Starting to feel like xmas again and I am feeling like want to run for the hills rather than be caught in middle playing peacemaker. Basically, my ds grandparents want to be with him to see parade saturday. Exp declared this eve he wants take ds to parade, plans to phone my mother tomorrow and tell her this. I know for fact that will not go down well with her, then I will get a cross call from her repeating this back to me!. I feel like screaming, I suggested to exp he can come see parade with us and ds grandparents but got told he is no way prepared to do that. What would you be doing with them all?, and do you know the really annoying thing is nobody gives a stuff what I would like to do on Saturday (big scream!!). I know my ds is lucky to have close family wanting to so be part of his life but at times like this I feel very tempted to move away. So, any advice how I can get through this weekend without falling out with any of them and get to enjoy the day with my ds?!!. Please help!

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Dee03 · 15/03/2012 22:15

If its not your xp normal contact day and you've already made plans then I would stick to the plans you've already made......

TeaTeaLotsOfTea · 16/03/2012 10:01

Is it ex's day to have him?

If so then unfortunately that is the rule. If not then your parents have already made plans and they get DS.

I think you should also make it clear that DS is not a prize to argue over. They need to stop this bickering and find out what your plans are first then perhaps discuss it like mature adults.

SquirtedPerfumeUpNoseInBoots · 16/03/2012 10:03

I too would stick with the plans made. If its not your ex's day, then tough. Nice that he wants to see him, but arrangements have been made.

whiteandnerdy · 16/03/2012 10:55

What would you like to do on Saturday?

joysofmotherhood · 16/03/2012 19:35

Thankyou for comments and advice. Thanks whiteandnerdy wish the others had thought ask that question!. My xp normally works every Saturday but with the weekend it is hes now off tomorrow. Anyway, after all the drama we have now arranged for me to take ds to parade. Xp may make appearance so will have to smile nicely!. Will spend Mothers Day with ds grandparents and they have agreed to babysit so I can get a much needed nite out!.
Its tough is'nt it dealing with everybodys wants and needs, even when I was with xp he never liked it when my ds grandparents were around but they are only family he has in Ireland. I just hope and pray this all gets easier, still early days with lots of adjustments.

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blackeyedsusan · 17/03/2012 15:50

did you have a nice day joy?

joysofmotherhood · 17/03/2012 20:42

Hi it worked out fine in the end thankgod. I watched parade in town with ds then my xp said he would take us both out for dinner after which went well, nice for my ds to see us in the same space without it ending in an arguement!. Me and ds will spend tomorrow with grandparents so hopefully everybody be happy by end of it and if not nothing more I can do. Happy St Patricks Day!.

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