Dont know if this is the right place but here goes.

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DP and I are not living together as things werent working. He moved out in September but we are still trying to make things work. He stays over occasionally and looks after dd regularly. Anyway he is meant to be staying tonight, however a good friend of mine who I rarely see is down this weekend at his dads (he is going through a marriage breakup so needs his friends right now), and has invited me to go out with him, his dad and his dads girlfriend tonight. Now I havent been out since the beginning of December so thought it may be nice ( dp can go out whenever he likes, he doesnt have dd overnight ever). Anyway spoke to dp on his lunch break and asked if he would mind and he got really funny so now looks like I am not going to go out!! Am I wrong to feel fed up about it? I probably am but would just be so nice to go out for a change!!!

You're not being unreasonable at all. You want to have a social life, and every parent needs a social life, but his attitude is making it difficult for you.
If he is not happy for you to see friends then give no leverage. It sounds harsh, and may not be how you approach things, but I'm a very take-no-crap person; I make it work both ways. If ex-partner wants to see DS then he does it when I say it's a good time. If he doesn't want to have him the odd night I want to pretend I have a social life, then I give no leverage. Things get stricter.

Out of interest, is DP paying Maintenance? Do you have a schedule in order?
I know you're trying to make it work, but without a clear guideline on what he should be doing and when he should be doing it, he may never give up (what he will see as) his eternal freedom.

I may have just ranted and not helped there :/ I get quite rage-y when I hear about dads being arses. Hope you resolve the issue!

Yes he pays maintence and has her during the day the 3 days I work, well before and after school or all day in the holidays.
I think he is annoyed because he is meant to be staying tonight but this was a very last minuter invite, only got invited an hour beofre spoke to him. For a start didnt know friend was going to split with wife, or that he was coming down to the area till yesterday.
Its as if Im asking him to not stay over, which I am not, have asked him to sit with dd while I go out but obviously would be coming back, not sure what time though as it isnt a local venue!!

Due to where he is living there is no option for him to have dd to overnight so cant even go out on those days!!

Ahh I see. I would try explaining to him the sitch with your friend if you haven't already, and ask him to understand that you need to be there for your friend. If it was his friend I'm sure he'd want to be as consoling as possible.

He knows that friend has split with wife this week, told him when I collected him from work, he didnt know earlier as friend was with me when I spoke to him. But when I told him he didnt turn round and say maybe you should go then and I didnt say anything as it was too late by that point. Too late to go now as they have left. Luckily he is with his dad and his dads girlfriend so not on his own.
Am glad he is with them though as he had quite a few to drink earlier after me and dd left him, met him for a coffee. And he wasnt in a good frame of mind then and by the sound of the texts Im getting he isnt now either.

I dont know, I obviously want to be there for my friend in his time of need, he was brilliant even though miles away when dp moved out, but maybe I am just feeling a tad more fed up than normal, storage heater downstairs has packed up so no heating downstairs, no hot water and electric meter given up the ghost but luckily got enough electric!!! So as well as helping my friend just need a night out!!!

At least you've got a way to keep in touch with him, even if you can't be there in person. If you lived near me, I'd offer to come and play babysitter in a heartbeat, I know how depressing the feeling can be when you need to get out!
At least you have a storage heater; I rely on a fireplace (no central heating/storage heaters) and the coal delivery is every other Friday.
I'm currently bundled under a duvet with a halogen heater next to me and a large white russian to warm myself up!

At least there's solidarity in us mums wasting away ;)

Thanks ModdedMummy. I too am under a blanket in front of the tv!! He has stopped texting now so hoping that means he is having a chat with his Dad. He is meant to be calling and meeting up with me tomorrow, seriously hope he does then can make sure he is okish before he drives back home.

Electric meter being changed in the week, going to dd's grandparents for a bath tomorrow evening as they are local. Tried to call out of hours about storage heater and no hot water but they cant recognise my postcode so will have to try again on monday!!!

By the way Thanks for the kind offer, would do the same.

I guess its just frustrating that he is staying over anyway so it wouldnt have made a difference me going out for a few hours!!!

Oh well, never mind. Too late now!!!lol