If he walks in and says 'Im tired one more time'...

[mama2moo]

...I am going to kill him.

Tired is looking after your 3.5yr old and 2yr old who have all of a sudden started an alliance and make trouble all day long. Tired is being woken by dd1 at 6am jibbering crap in your ear for the next hour. Tired is working, taking the girls to nursery and back, cleaning the house, making meals, dressing/undressing/bathing children. You come in after a day at your quiet flat and say 'Im tired'.

Ahhhhh. I am sick of it. Rant over. He only moved out 3 weeks ago after deciding to leave our 9 year relationship. I am trying hard not to shout at him and kill him but its getting though.

Can anyone beat this to make me feel better?

Presumably, he will have the girls over the weekend, no?

I think in those circumstances that you did very well not to kill him. Think I once gave my ex a real shouting at for doing something pretty similar. Well done :) Have a

Lol mama2moo, I'll try :-)

Exp left our 12 year relationship.... He is a self employed joiner. We took on a 2 house renovation project 6 years before we split, at the time he left the children were 14,5&2.
He moved into the completely renovated 2 bedroom listed building, leaving me in the semi-complete (still had the building warrant outstanding, temporary kitchen, half finished interior) but larger house, saying he couldn't live anywhere that needed work done on it.....
He took all of the building materials that we had stashed to complete this house and used them on jobs elsewhere....
Tiered is dealing with a teenager who has suffered emotional abuse and rejection from the only father he has known.
Tiered is dealing with 2 little girls who are at each others throats every time they come back from dads
Tiered is dealing with social services, police and women's aid when false accusations are made
Tiered is finishing a renovation project with borrowed tools, around three children and work
Tiered is looking after 5 other children to make ends meet
Tiered is going to college on top of that to train to get a better job, with the 140 mile round trip to get there once a week
Tiered is filling every other available minute with sewing to afford the activities the kids want to do
Tiered is trying to spend quality time with my kids in the midst of all this!
I won't mention trying to keep on top of the animals and the veg patch....

Does that help? :-)

Wow, froggies - You win hands down. OMG, I am shocked at what you have been going through.

Well done for going to college on top of all of this. I am proud that my girls see me going to work so that I can provide for them

To be fair, I could just sell the house unfinished, buy a smaller one in a town where there is childcare options and go back to my old career. Life would be a lot simpler, but, I love my house, I don't want to move the kids from their schools, and I don't want to go back to my old job.
I try not to moan because it has been my decision to stay here. It is hard work, but I will be the one to get the benefits of it eventually, and I can pass those benefits on to the kids.

This thread is pretty inspirational to someone who has been up for three days with screaming baby after 'D'H decided he wasn't sure after all and f*ed off back to his Mum's as he was "tired"... Hope she stops screaming soon but think she might be an early teether.

when ds1 was born, i hadn't slept for 3 nights/4 days due to labouring overnight and then staying in hospital 2 nights (couldn't sleep at all). on the first night home from hospital my EXP (who had been at his own house so slept perfectly for those 3 nights) arrived at 9pm to 'help' me with the baby and left at 9.45pm stating tiredness as the reason for his early departure. i almost punched him.

My ex was so 'tired' during DD1's labour that he slept in the adjoining birthing room, whilst a woman gave birth in a side room. After a four hour nap, he woke up, announced he was still tired and went home to sleep for another 6 hours.

Also, when DD1 was readmitted to hospital ill as a baby, he turned his phone off, and didn't turn up until 3.30pm the following day as he was "too tired to deal with it".

Curiosity kitten, what a man!

Birth moments...
When DC1 was born, it was a very quick labour, Parked up at hospital a 4pm, baby in my arms at 4.16. (had gone into hosp at midday, they said baby would arrive early hours of the morning, and sent me home). Ex1's memorable comment? "you didn't even notice me"

When DC3 was born, about 6am, still in delivery room, ex2 went for a fag and went home, because he was tired... Shortly after I was in theatre because of retained placenta, had 3 units of blood 2 days later so I could go home and carry on from where I left off as he went straight back to work.

I have decided that I have crap taste in men.

I remember how tired my ex was during the third trimester of pregnancy! Poor man. We I was trying to finish painting and decorating the house before the baby arrived, I would keep going when I started to feel tired knowing full well that in a few minutes ex would announce he was tired and have to stop.

Poor ex works 16 hours a day in his very very important job yet the odd times he does answer the phone when me or DS call him, he is at home having finished work early. Somehow we see him standing outside the pub smoking a fag on occasions. He is usually so tired that he couldn't contemplate seeing DS on a Sunday because he has to rest up and get ready for work on Monday.

I shouldn't laugh but this has made me feel so much better and less alone. The ex comes here to complain about being tired, despite living with his parents who do everything for him, being off work and having bugger all to do.
I have a 4 yr old who doesn't like sleeping, a 6 month old who has been teething and also will only sleep whilst attached to my breast. Both children are in my bed with me (my choice but still tiring) I'm on duty 24/7. I also have 2 dogs who mess everywhere and a 3 bed house to keep clean and tidy.
He stayed one night to look after our non sleeping baby between feeds so I could sleep a little, this was after a week of no sleep and me literally falling over. That night he slept for only 5 hours (straight i might add, something I have not done for a year!!) and therefore had the right to be nasty and grumpy the next day.
I will kill him one day, I just know it.

love this thread!

Urgh, its horrible that its just me with an idiot ex!

I didnt have him at the birth of dd2. He went home at 6am after dd was born at 2am. I told him not to bring dd1 in to hospital because I wanted to wait until we were all home (she was 19mo at the time and I had told him this loads of times). 10am I see dd1's shoes at my curtain in the ward. I was sat holding dd2. His reason was that it was quicker for him to pop in with dd1, drop her at mums and get home to sleep. The ass hole ruined my relationship dd1 from that day.

I should have got rid then. Once a bad egg, always a bad egg.

not just me !!

Not quite the same but when my DD was 3 weeks old, my single brother came over, slumped on the sofa and announced her was going to be very grumpy because he was terribly weary from work and now "knew how I felt".
As a single mother coping with a newborn with mother to stay as well (lawks help me), I almost killed him.

I can't wait for him to have children; I'm going to visit and poke him repeatedly as he tries to catch five precious of uninterrupted sleep after a week of shouty baby - moo ha ha ha.