Just wondering why i bother?

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To try and find and establish a new relationship when they are such a hassle. I guess I want support, intimacy and love but all I attract is wierdos.
Can anyone tell me why us gels bother and is anyone voluntarily celibate and loving it? I am celibate although it's not voluntary and I'm not lovin it!

Maybe your just giving off the wrong vibes? Body language, demeanour, attitude, dress sense, locations you socialise etc. All these factors and more each contribute to your chances and the kind of relationships you'll get.

Your very unlikely to pick up a eloquent romantic bloke in a seedy downtrodden pub in some backwater - unless he too is pass through!

But more seriously if your not happy with what your "attracting" then give yourself a life makeover. Don't blame others for what you yourself are causing to happen. Sometimes just breaking away from your normal routine and going some place different where you'll be a new face could be all it takes. Sometime dressing a bit younger looking a but more "womanly" or just talking without swearing will do it.

So you want to be "advertising" in the right places as a proper man completes any women just as a proper women completes any man. Give out the right signals and in the right places.

Reminds me of the old joke: Why should ladies not sit with their legs open? Don't advertise what your not selling!

Jshm2- You are great!!! and this has really made me feel a bit better as I to have had my fair share of weirdos and blokes who think Im just up for a larf and a bit of fun . I deffo need a revamp I think on the clothes front but this has made me feel alot better. Thank you

Yes, I am.
You need to learn to make yourself happy, rather than expecting a relationship to do it for you. I am not prepared to put up with weirdos, but as time has gone on I attract less of them because I give off the vibe of being strong and independent, rather than a bit needy. It's the feeling like you have to have a relationship that attracts most of the weirdos- they know you're less choosey.
I will happily stay single rather than date someone who is not worthy of me.

Its work in progress for me but I would also rather be single now than put up with any of the previous rubbbish.

Oh I could major in weirdos so you're certainly not alone! I tend to be attracted to deeply flawed/emotionally damaged men. Probably a Daddy issue there? Who knows.

I don't mind being single though, which is probably just as well!