Dating

[fallenpetal]

Hi all

So Ive met someone - we are taking it slow starting as friends, just some one to socialise with and see what happens.
Its been so long since I have dated all I know is I want take my time before I introduce him to the children. He feels exactly the same and is probably even more hesitant than me.
So any advice for me? How often should we see each other/talk?

Oh I am so lame but this is really scary stuff

Congratulations!

Personally, I reckon you need to see each other a couple of times a week (or more) to get a relationship off the ground properly. Though phoning (or even skyping) in the evening for a chat is also good if your DCs go to bed at a reasonable hour.

Good luck

I'm seeing someone too!

We just try to see each other when we can as he has his son half the time and I have my kids all week and every other weekend. Mostly he comes round to mine when he doesn't have his son. We probably see each other 2 or 3 times a week.

It is all quite scary. I'm constantly analysing things. Been seeing each other a couple of months. He has met my 2 year old a couple of times as I feel my ds doesn't really question who he is - just accepts he is mummy's "friend". But we are leaving it a while before we introduce each other to each other's 5 year olds as we feel neither are ready for it.

Good luck with it all x

Thank you xx Ive been trying to reply for days but I couldnt log in!

Its good to know others are as wary as me, I wish it were easier to know what the other is thinking