Don't know what to do :(

[Dollfacee]

Ok so i'm only eighteen, i was with my babys dad till he was 6months old then left because my babys dad was Abusive physically and mentally, i had all the threats etc threatening to kidnap my son and stuff went through a solictor they planned this thing where he sees baby every 2 weeks for 2 hours for 6 sessions hes on his last session with my son and wants to take him out, and im pretrified and dont feel ready to let him take my son away from other peoples sights (mum and dad as hes not aloud near me) i don't know how to explain to anyone but the nightmares have started again :( that someones going to take my son away, and im starting to feel stressed again, how should i go about this because im completely stuck.. Advice please?

Also i have just moved into my own place we settled down nicely now im scared that my babys dad is going to find me..

Is this a court order or something arranged outside court?

If it is a court order I assume it has only come about after a CAFCASS report and a judge considering carefully what is in your child's best interests. If it is a court orde you will either have to obey it or ask the court to vary the order.

You are obviously very scared and stressed about it which is understandable, but I hope you can be reassured if the situation has been looked at carefully. It should be building up slowly and carefully - how old is your child?

No its not a court order it didnt go no further than appoinments with a solicitor because we both accepted a reasonable arrangement.. I am scared not just for me for my son too it has affected him badly if anyone even touches me he screams and goes mad, he is a year and months

Were there any social workers involved when you were going through the solicitors etc...? If so, is there one who you would feel comfortable getting in touch with for a bit of advice?

Were no guidelines put in place about how the visits would be conducted (e.g. supervised/ in your parents house etc.)? And is there a plan for what happens when the 6 sessions are over? I think what would be stressing me out in your situation would be that I wasn't sure where I stood when they were finished, and he's on his last one. Do you need to speak to the solicitor again about that?

Good luck.

Why do you say it was a 'reasonable' arrangment if you are now so scared and you are saying that your son 'screams and goes mad' ? He is very young.

Who were the people involved in coming to this arrangement? What investigations have been made to reassure you that your son will be safe?

If you feel so uneasy, then don't agree to it. Set out why you are unhappy and what you would see to need happen before you can agree to contact. If you are scared that he is going to find you, this doesn't sound good.

Either you are over reacting and very anxious and need some help and support OR he is a potential risk to your child or you. Either way, I don't think this is a happy sounding situation.