Advice Please

[Ray70]

Hi, am new to this forum and just after some advice. I have been separated for one year and yesterday was told by my ex that he is "seeing" and has been for several months the mother of my 9 year olds best friend. I see this woman several times/week at school football and would consider her a friend. How do i deal with this. the sense of betrayal is more that it is someone who i know well - if it was a random woman less bothered as i initiated the separation. help!

Ray, if you initiated the separation and this wasn't going on while you were together, then you have not been betrayed. You have to let it go.

Hi Ray,

I'm sorry you feel hurt by this, but really, unless they were having an affair they are doing nothing wrong.

If this is a long term relationship then try and look at the positives - at least your child already has an established relationship with the mother.

As Corlan said, you have to let it go - for your sake and your child's sake.

Yeah..... just read the posts on here, all very reasonable, technically no one's done anything wrong, but I'd be cross. In fact I'd be fuming. Although I'm not sure who I would be cross with....

I'd probably pop on the internet and have a bit of a rant, and then hopefully you feel a bit better? Hope you do, and if you initiated the separation, then I suppose you've just got to take a deep breath, count to ten and thank your lucky stars that you're never going to have to pick his dirty socks up off the bathroom floor?