I seem to spend most of my time on mn sorting through my baggage!

[toptramp]

I'm feeling a bit down at the moment. I'm not enjoying life as I'm feeling so lonely. I work with lots of nice men; some of whom are single but I find it so hard to talk to flirt at work. Online dating is proving to be slow and I have lots of emotional baggage from past disastours. I am worn out by it all and I feel like I'd enjoy being a mum more if I had someone nice to share it with!

I had to work through so much stuff too and it is hard going TT but I am happier in myself now and not looking for a guy to make me happy,i know that is my own responsibility .I guess i also look at spending time with men as if its good for me for a while then cool,I dont need to live with him or think we are going to be together forever.It is tough but ive done it the other way and ended up with me accepting the unacceptable again again just to stay in a relationship cos i had fallen in love with someone that didnt respect me.Hang in there and stay true to yourself and go out and be what you want to be !

Patience is wise :) YOu do need to sort out your life so that a man is not the only solution for you - you can be happy in your self. and your own skin

If you want to get more social life at work its much easier if you can organise some kind of night out or charity work or some kind of project where you can get to know folk without any pressure. If youve had past disasters it can be quite healing just to be friends with men for a while without any romance involved.