do I have the right to know ex's address?

[MistressMiggins]

H wont tell me where he lives (dont even know which part of the country let alone town!)

he expects in the near future to take the children to his new house for the weekend

is he allowed to do this if I dont know the address?
Ive told him it wont happen but he seems to think I have no need/right to know the address?

easy to find his address mine did the same but a quick trip to 192.com found him in less than 2 minutes along with his new wife who i didnt know about either

sadly it isnt that easy . 192 isnt totally up to date, plus its only the short version of the electoral register. if you tick a box on the form you wont be listed on that version. although some people do overlook that tick box, i did for years. its a useful site at times though i have to say.

i certainly wouldnt want ds to go to his dads if he refused to give me his address. (even though we're on very good terms) i think its perfectly reasonable for you to want it mistressmiggins.

I don't know about the UK, but in the US you can specify in the divorce custody agreement as to whether someone not married to your ex can sleep in the house/bedroom while your kids are there. Not sure about the specifics, but a friend of mine had something like this. Might be worth mentioning to your attorney if the paperwork is still in progress.

192 is a good idea IF you actually know which town he is in....which I dont

I know where both his offices are but there are loads of towns & villages around so it would be like looking for a needle in a haystack

his solicitor is apparantely telling my sol his address for sending divorce papers etc but I dont know whether he will specify not telling me - after all my sol only needs an address to send documents

I wont be letting the kids go without knowing regardless of what he says and Im still not letting HER near them short term...obviously I will have to accept HER in their lives - dont know what the rush is for H? Surely if they are in it for the long run, then a few months wont make much difference - yes, their weekends will be disrupted but tough - should have thought of that b4 starting the affair

Miggins

Glad to hear you are getting on with the divorce and life not treating you too badly. I agree that it would be better for kids if your X came to your home.

It is odd concept but works for us. DH has 2 DS aged 9 & 7. The journey from our home to theirs (they live with their mum) is about 6 hours - train, plane and car. Alternative weekends DH travels to their home. The mother vacates her home from 7pm Friday till Sunday evening (she stays in hotel) and DH stays in DS home. This is ideal for the boys as they can continue with their weekend tennis classes attend class mates birthday parties etc. It means that boys have not got exhausting journey at weekend.

I'm sure your DD is about three as is mine. I don't think a long boring journey is in her best interests. The negative side is we pay cost of mum to stay in hotel but if boys came to us it would be 2 flights not 1.

When DSS stay with us (in school hols). I ensure that they return home to their mum with clean clothes. I iron their stuff but not DD! The paranoia of being a 2nd wife I guess.