Hmmmm what to do, what to do ?

[TheOriginalNutcracker]

If you didn't fancy someone, but they made you laugh and you felt slightly jealous that they might start seeing someone else, what would you do ??

God that sounds quite cold and heartless, but i don't fancy him. I do however have a sharp intake of breathe when i see he has messaged me on fb.

I feel the same about someone, but at the end of the day, I just don't fancy him, so there's no future imo.

Maybe you just like the attention, I think that's what it is for me.

Yes you are probably right about the attention thing. Bliney, how sad is that.

Everyone need attention. Are you actively looking for someone at the moment. I'm trying (and mainly succeeding) to be happy on my own at the moment. I'm too scared of being hurt again to have another relationship anyway.

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No not really. I have been single for 6yrs with one disatrous no strings fling in that time. That really knocked my confidence, and i piled on some weight.

I am slowly getting myself back to normal, but I just don't attract anyone that I fancy. Sounds really shallow I know.

I feel the same. Last time I was single I was horrified by the men that approached me (also shallow). This time I have already piled on a protective coating of fat, which keeps me safe from male attention.

Lol thats what I did Chestnut, i am trying to lose it now though.

This guy seems to be nice and thats probbaly one of my problems because nice guys scare me lol.

It is all complicated though cos his mate is the person i had the no strings fling with, although i don't think they see each other that much.

He has been messaging me all day, and a few time he has made me face light right up. I dunno, I really don't.

Also, he is only 26, I am 33.

Don't you even fancy him a little bit?

Tbh I am not a good person to advise on this, because I would run several miles rather than get into a relationship at the moment. I've only been single for 18 months though, so a different situation to yours. I want to work out why I have had such long relationships with losers, and why I put up with so much, before I get back into dating.

Hmmm nope, not physically, although I've seen him in the flesh for ages.

I like him, alot, but i don't want to start something and then realise it's not what i want, cos i don't want to hurt him.

I am rubbish at advising people myself chestnut so don't worry lol