Hey I've never posted on here before.. but I'm having real trouble answering my daughters questions about her dad. I was 14 when I got pregnant with her, and he never wanted me to keep her (first suggesting abortion, then adoption...), but since then he's been in and out of her life roughly seeing her about every year or so.. but only because I took her to see him, he never made the effort. My little girl also had cancer when she was a toddler, and her dad insisted on him and his new girlfriend being involved, and after seeing her twice he stood her up at her first MRI.. that's the last time we saw him, because I went straight to my solicitors to arrange regular meetings officially for my daughter... and he ignored my solicitors letters. In the last 6 months, I've moved out of my families house for the first time and my daughter has started school. This week she started asking a lot of questions about her dad, and I really don't know how to answer them.. but she definately deserves answers. she has asked 'who is he?' 'where does he live?' and the worst... 'why doesn't he come to Cardiff to see me?' :(.. any advice would be appreciated :).