Am I just being a bit over sensitive?

[froggies]

Today was the first day back at school. DD2's first day at nursery, and I had to take the favourite family cat to be put to sleep :-(
DS(15) can't remember him not being there, DD1 played with him like a doll (dressed him up, wheeled him around in the toy buggy the works), and DD2 was following suit, we all loved him v much.

So, as DD's are going to ExP's tomorrow (and exp lived with us for 12 years so I imagine would have been attached to the cat too) I emailed him to let him know, and tell him that DD1 in particular is v upset, but both are dealing with it ok (he doesn't see DS, and wouldn't give a shit if he was upset or not).

The reply I got was 'thanks for letting me know. I am planning to take the girls away on holiday for a week, please let me know what dates you have pre-planned'

I am feeling a bit like he is saying 'who gives a shit about the cat, but as you are feeling crap, I'll tell you I am taking the girls away for a week right now because it is really the worst time for you to hear this news'

But then. Might be feeling a bit over emotional :(

- it's horrible when pets die, and all the harder if you're the only adult in the household having to hold it together whilst kids cry their eyes out, I know. And hard too if you have to bury the pet - it makes a much bigger impact that it would probably have done on your ex who was simply told by you.

Sounds like your ex is just a bit insensitive. He'd probably been intending to ask you pretty soon about holiday plans anyway, and just decided to do it in the same text. Bit thoughtless, but don't think he's really likely to have intended to upset up further - presumably he wants a helpful response from you about the holiday dates, so if he'd thought a bit more, he'd have realised he'd be better to wait a bit. You can always reply and tell him you're too upset right now to plan holiday dates and will let him know in a few days though.