GRRR!

[MummySunshine]

Baby's dad has decided when the baby is born that he wants a DNA test to be done. Not sure why this has pissed me off so much, it just all feels a bit Jeremy Kyle. I know that he's the father, but the thought of it has made me doubt myself?!

Also, I feel weird going through my pregnancy with him involved knowing that he doesn't believe it's his baby?! And him being at the birth?! But know he will go mental if I say I don't want him there. Feel crap :(

Poor you.
You don't have to have him at the birth or involved in the pregnancy, unless you want him to be. Do you have anyone else who can support you?

He sounds quite controlling and not very sensitive to your feelings. You need support during the pregnancy, not stress. Even if he wants a dna test, he should be respectful and supportive of you.

Why does he have doubts?

No-one has any right to he at the birth except you.

Personally I would tell him that since he does not believe he is the father then why should he be there.

Is the dad projecting his cheating ways onto you and think you are a cheat like him? Well a cheat can't trust themselves ...so they can't trust anyone else!

I would be telling him to do his DNA when the CSA paperwork comes through rather than insult me like that! He is ruining your pregnancy causing you stress which you don't need!

If he doesn't like it show him the door!

My ds dad did DNA behind my back as he told everyone it was not his and I never told him I was pregnant until I was 8 months pregnant... I am sure that was him standing their at the 3 month scan! He walked out 2 days before 5 month scan. Cause he cheated he projected it onto me saying I was the cheat! He thought his £200 internet DNA kit was going to save him a lifetime of child support....he obiviously was gutted when he found out ds was his first dc......nothing more than a sperm donar in my eyes....a sperm bank would have been more rewarding though that's the sad bit for ds...this is the 'type' of 'donar' that demands a DNA....sorry!

ps I refused access to birth and didnt contact him until ds was 2 weeks old...he did the DNA when ds was 5 wks old whist I made a cuppa for him seeing his ds on first visit grrrr! It is 'common assult' to take a DNA without the parent responisibility giving permission...never mind informing them. Police didn't want to know though...ex would have gone to prison if it was in France...theres a shame!

He does not need to be there if you don't want him there. It could do more harm you know - stress you out etc

Whether he is the father or not makes no difference. He has no legal right to be at the birth and someone who is saying they are not the father i think shouldnt be at the birth, unless of course they know its not theirs and are prepared to take it on and raise it as their own. Tell him to go get stuffed and rid yourself of him. x