Thoughts and advise please

[JessmummyOf2]

i have recently become a single mum of 2. i have a 23 month old and a 9 month old and despite taking the pill religiously (same time to the second every day) have just found out im pregnant. I have tried talking to my ex about it and he doesnt want to know.
I am leaning towards a termination because i dont believe it right to bring a child into the world when one parent doesnt want it and also i dont think id cope having 3 children under 3 on my own! its all very well having friends and family but theyre not there all the time, or in the middle of the night when all 3 children are screaming! And i keep 'making up my mind' but then i still feel i need reasurance, so to speak, that im doing the right thing, because ive always been against terminations! i guess its different when its happening to you...
so just some thoughts and advise on my situation would be very much appreciated as i have a telephone consulation tomorrow.
Many thanks x

I think it's best if you wait until the telephone consultation & then see how you feel. Upset stomachs can interfere with the effect of the pill. Is the ex the father of the other 2 as well?

Only you can decide this. If it were me I would have an abortion without hesitation. I have no moral objection at all and I would be very worried about my ability to cope on my own with three very little children.

But I know other women feel very strongly that they couldn't live with themselves if they had an abortion and it probably is the wrong choice for them.

Only you can know where you stand on this. One thing that might help is writing down a list of pros and cons and seeing if this helps makes things clearer.

In your situation I would have a termination. But I am not you, and only you can decide.

only you can make that choice. Like you say it is you that will have to be up in the night etc. I have no advice except think it through carefully. Have you anybody to talk to in r.l?

RedHelenB- yes he is the father of both my children.
MissPricklePants- yes, my best friend, just she just agrees with whatever i say so not much help lol.
Thankyou guys, i think i have definatly made my decision now, as sad as it is, its kinder to the unborn baby to have a termination than bring it into this world and i end up not coping etc, but will talk to the dr tomorrow.
also i just want to say thankyou all for not judging or making me feel ashamed, you have all helped a great deal x

I hope whatever happens you feel that you have made the right decision for you and your family.

If you make a decision that you have thought about and is right for you, it doesn't matter what anyone else says or thinks as they don't have to live your life.

TBH I think it's a bit late for him to 'not want a baby' when he was having sex with you and knew that was one possibility (even with contraception, it's not 100%). So I wouldn't care what he said- do what is best for you and your children. If you would find it hard to cope, that's a reason to have an abortion, but having an ex who thinks he has a right to consequence-free sex is not a good reason.