Anybody else have families who are determined you remain alone?

[Ladylou83]

Or is it just me?

H and I seperated in september, he said he didnt love me, and I discovered he had played away. I left the family home to be nearer the support of family. H and I are no where near resolving the situation, but things are getting better, and were both talking about trying. However my family seem to be determined that i'm to remain alone forever.

I brought H some shoes in the sales as he asked me to keep a look out for him, and my mother launched into a verbal attack on how I was a fool etc. Its not like H and I are moving back in together and renewing vows etc, were just taking one step at a time. None of my family are supportive with regards to H, but I love him, I want to learn to trust him again and unite my little family. Why cant they let me live my life? I dont get it :(

Well if he doesn't love you then they are just trying to stop you being sucked in and hurt again, or used by your feelings for him while he has none for you.

It sounds like they are trying to protect you.

If it was your daughter that had been cheated on and told that she wasn't loved - wouldn't you behave the same way your mother has?

You've only been on your own since September - why on earth would you think you're going to be on your own forever? Maybe you need to slow down and take stock of your situation.

You left home for their support, and I guess this is part of it; would you rather they "left you to live your life" and didn't take you in?

Your H has behaved very badly and explicitly told you he doesn't love you. Your mum, who does love you, doesn't want you to rush back into a relationship with someone who just a few months ago told you he didn't love you and cheated on you.

She's not determined you are alone; she's determined that you don't get hurt again.

Thanks, ur comments have brought me down to planet earth, and I can now take on board that mum is just caring in a way any mother would. Your right, if this happened to my DD i'd be exactly the same (if not worse)

H and I have been spending time together, its far from the start of a reconcilliation, but we both wanted to spend time together and remember why we were together in the first place. I want to learn to trust him again, even if its just so Im comfortable when DD finally has away nights at his.