?!?new baby with new partner?!? help me see sense!

[angrywoman]

I was broody for about 2 months last year for no sane reason (trying to sort the rest of my employable life/ have enough with three...) and my DP didn't indulge my fantasies as he said he had never wanted any biological offspring of his own. He came back from a recent trip home with his mind changed after seeing an older cousin with a new baby....
And now I realise I was secretly glad he drew a line at having a baby with me because I had to see sense rather than follow a bizarre urge to bang another one out before its too late :o
Its harder at the moment to be sensible because my sister and lots of old pals are having babies now (I had mine relatively early) and the ex has just had one with his new partner......
I was coming round to accepting that my procreative years were over. Now I have to consider DP and his wishes.. It could become a deal-breaker!

well, there's a turn up!

.....you can only discuss it rationally as he did when you were feeling broody and see where you end up. The jump from 3-4 seemed big to me and was expensive (cars etc.), and emotionally tiring. ...how hands on would he be? Do you ,live together? What is he like with the other DCs will his new found desire disappear if you suggest he'd have to be the SAHP?

best wishes

Hi Fool, good point, he could be the SAHP! That's something to raise. (Shame he can't go through pregnance and labour too!) Yes 2-3 was big enough for me, we had to get a new car then. My youngest is 7 in May.
We have been together for over 3 years. He is good with the three I already had though I am concerned that he would treat his own differently. And then, God forbid... want another?! (This happened to a friend who had 4 girls and then another with new DP and is now trying for no. 5, with IVF!?)
My children have had a horrible time with their Dad and his Mother who they love and want to see but can't at the moment for different reasons. They have been ok through me and my family/ friends being stable and caring...
Having one with DP would certainly put a spanner in the works.
I have put myself on the pill for now, to be on the safe side!

good luck

thanks!

7yrs,well 8 by the time you had another is a pretty big age gap! I couldnt start over again now. I totally agree with the rational talk - I love the idea of having another baby but the reality is so much more complicated that the pretty dream of the perfect sleeping easy feeding bundle we think about! Good luck x

Yes you're right petal. I am drawn helplessly toward that fantasy. Though I love my other three their dad made my life increasingly difficult as time passed the 8 years we were together. And I can't imagine what it's like to have a baby with someone you really love and are truly committed to....