DD1 asked for a bike. Exp asked if I was getting it, I said yes, it is the only thing that he knew I was getting, most stuff if they are duplicated they can keep one at his, one a mine, but as we live next door to each other, duplicating a bike seems silly.
They spent Christmas day at ExP's, and we are having Christmas today.
DD1 told me this morning, before opening her pressies that Dad had got her a bike but she wasn't supposed to tell me. I said that that was cool, because it means she doesn't have to take her bike with her anymore, which they have both been doing quite happily for the last year.
Now I am hearing 'the one I have got at dad's has gears and everything' 'why don't I have as many presents as DD2?' 'why didn't I get this thing off my list?'
I have said that if I had known dad was asking Santa to get her a bike, I would have asked him to get the other things on the list instead of a second bike and that I am sorry if she is disappointed.
Now I am feeling really pissed off at the ex. He wanted to know what Me and all of my family were getting so things would't be duplicated, even though he said had already bought his stuff at that point, which was way before i had ought anything, and didn't tell me what he had got so I didn't buy the same.... Which really didn't bother me, the same Barrie in 2 different houses doesn't really matter, but 2 bikes? When he knew I was getting it? If he had said he already had bought one, fair enough, I would have got other stuff, but he didn't. If he didn't know I was getting one, fair enough....
DD isn't disappointed to have 2 bikes, as one if for dad's and the other is for here, just that she did't get the other stuff she wanted, which I could have got if I hadn't got her a bike.... But he didn't think to get her another helmet, obviously, if she has one here there is no point in buying another one....
Trying to get my head round why on earth he would do this, because DD really hasn't benefitted from it! Thankfully neither has thrown a complete wobbly, which at 6 could have been quite possible with all the Christmas hype....