feel sooo sad today

[Chinuplove]

I split up with exDP a month ago, my choice, things not right for at least a year, he didn't see this coming at all. Don't want to go into all that, just wanted to tell someone how sad I'm feeling today. I know the decision was the right one, and in all honsety we wouldn't see much of him over xmas anyway due to work. I just feel so sad that my kids haven't got their Daddy here and they are going to him boxing day etc. I'm in tears don't really know how I'm going to get through the next few days. Then I feel more guilty about how he's feeling as the split isn't what he wants etc. I'm just feeling sad, confused, guilty and a bit of a mess really. What time is the next train to the middle of nowhere?!

It's ok to be sad. But you have obviously take a lot of time thinking this through, so if you are sure it's the right thing to do then try to make Christmas a happy day and look forward to a better year now that you've made the break. It'll be ok.

i went through similar 18 months ago. things had been bad for about 2 years, and one silly argument was the last straw...Exh said he didnt see it coming, he was devastated, so much so that within 3 month of me moving out he found someone new and she had moved in after 2 months. Now im angry, i really dont want him back, but i feel let down that he is doing all the family things i wanted him to do with someone else, so for the kids i feel bad......however the kids are fine with it. all i can say is dont be soft, i walked away with nothing, and was paid out a pitance because i felt bad...and i regret that...

18 months on i have a new partner, and i feel loved and cherished and worthwhile.......