Not sure what to do for the best...

[Fabnewme2011]

My xH & I have equal custody week about for our son. But he is so horrible to my son. My son is always upset, can't talk to his dad and is tired of xH always bad mouthing me. It's affecting DC ability to trust. He's confused and a very sad boy.

xH has family living in area. I only have friends here. I'd love to go for sole custody but I'm scared that xH will take DC away from me permanently. Does anyone know how the process works? I'm confused and very upset because of effects on DC

Haven't got any experience I am afraid but didn't want to not comment!

Sounds like a horrible situation, how old is your ds?

Maybe someone like the cab might be able to help?

Or one of the single parent organisations.

He's 11. It's torture. I'll try some of those orgs. Thanks

Lots of family law solicitors will do a free half hour's worth of advice - worth a shot? Agree that at 11 they would take your son's opinions into account, so I think you're probably on stronger ground than you realise.

I'm not saying you are abusive, but it's an abusive situation if your child has to stay with someone like that.

I would be going for full custody.

Is your son the type of child who would feel sorry for his dad and not want to 'hurt' him, so would say that he wanted to stay with him, still?

You need to go to gp and ask for referral to family therapist.
Unless child s views and yours backed up by professionals it will be much harder to persuade court unless there real allegations of abuse.

Get your ds talking to a child psychologist to get to bottom of what is going on independent of you and also advice from that person. While ds' views count you going need support from a professional if you need to pursue it legally