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SaggyHairyArse · 18/12/2011 00:27

So, Nana gave DS1 an early Xmas pressie. A hamster. This is fine as I like animals but DS (who is 10) then gave me hourly accounts of the hamsters every moves throughout the night what with them being nocturnal. I was so cross about this as when will he realise it is not OK to wake me up in the night unless he is ill or the house is burning down? Then my DD who is 7 had a major dose of the green eyed monster (the hamster is so much cuter than her gerbils apparantly...). I spent the day counselling my daughter (bless her), the 10 year old was being a cock sure little shite all day and all of them kicked off about walking the dog (going to the park) and getting a few bits at the shops. By teatime I was very prickly and the youngest then started playing up, I said to him "be a good boy because Father Xmas is coming next week" or words to that effect and DS1 said "he's not real", despite frosty glares, despite me telling him that he doesn't exist when he asked but not to say anything as he had only just realised and it would be nice not to tell the other two as they were younger which he agreed to. I lost it and basically flung him in his room, screeched my head off, swore and, i'm ashamed to say, smacked him.

It has been an awful day. I have smacked him before but it is not something I do as a punishment in this house, however I have done it when i've lost it and it's just not good. This is the beginning of the school holidays and I they are looking to be as crap as the last school holidays.

:(

My kids mean everything to me but sometimes I am so horrible, it is always after they have been awful, but that is no excuse. I don't want their memories to be this shit.

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SaggyHairyArse · 18/12/2011 00:30

Should add, that he didn't just say Father Xmas wasn't real one, he said it numerous times for effect before I lost it and he was shhh'ed and told to be quiet and then I lost it. Rubbish.

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Wittsend13 · 18/12/2011 14:05

Oh Sags don't beat yourself up about it. You're only human and we all lose it at times. Give yourself and your son a big hug x

fallenpetal · 18/12/2011 18:09

Oh sounds like you have had a build up of seasonal stress and lack of sleep you poor thing :(

No one feels good about loosing it or smacking but many do one or the other at some point (probably most actually) but dont feel guilty for too long, work on de stressing, early nights all round for a few days then get back into the swing of the festivities.
The kids will all soon forget about it especially if you focus on the good things and get excited rather than stressed - if you feel stress maybe can get out you walk the dog and chill.
If it helps, I just snapped at my daughter for nothing and really had a go at my son yesterday. Its all passed now and they both love me again :) Hugs too you xxx

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