Court stuff

[philosowatzit]

I've spent most of the morning reading this website, looking for advice about family assistance orders. I read a great big long thread, with advice I thought, yeah, that sounds like a similar circumstance, maybe I should do that, but then.... When I got to the bottom, or near, it was a 'TROLL', whatever that is. Does that mean it's not real? That that person never had that problem, and if I actually get up the nerve to ask a question to a VERY serious problem I would like advice on, then people may pretend to have had experiences for which I am looking for advice on? Because I really need advice from real life people, who have actually been through it, to keep me on track. I won't divulge all on an open forum but, I am 3 years down the line with the court process, dealing with CAFCASS, and yes, I appear to have had some very similar experiences, as described on here, with my ex (I call him that, but was only a very short term relationship, and yes, wish I hadn't met him - very vulnearable when I did - yes, all my fault, I know). I've had an absolutely horrendous 3 years, and still going, and I just need a little support or guidance from people who have been through similar. In the real world that is. ie PLEASE NO 'TROLLS' please please please, I need real help and advice, and please, no arguments. I'm struggling a little, and of course you don't get real life advice from the 'official' website ie CAFCASS, court websites, solicitor websites..... blah blah. So,I know it's the festive season, but this has been my reality for the last 3 Christmases, and it appears, unless I make a positive stand myself, to end this, then it will probably be dragging on til next Christmas. I just want a normal family life!!!! A Christmas where all is ready the month before, and not stressing out about bloody court attendance, barrister meetings, solicitor meetings, etc... ad infinitum. Sorry for that rant

Your best bet, tbh, is to post on Legal, preferably in a concise way with a brief history of where the proeedings are up to now, followed by specific questions.

There is a good community of family solicitors and barristers on Legal who will be able to help.

Thank you, thank you, thank you. That's good to know, great advice, appreciate it. Will start on that now. Probably take me all night to make it concise however. How to condense 3 years into 3 paragraphs [fhmmm]

What we need to know is basically:

Ages of children

Involvement of father in their care

Whether he has parental responsibility

What court proceedings have been issued so far, and what orders have resulted

What the current problem is, eg is he seeking contact and the children don't want it/is he seeking joint or sole residence/etc

Whether there are any current proceedings, what stage they're at, what the cafcass officer recommends and whether you accept that recommendation.

Have posted a short version on there, but I would think solicitors/barristers would not want to offer advice, as it's current. The real reason I came on here was for information about these Family Assitance Orders, what are they exactly? Are they to help the children, ie counselling, or ??? or are they more a sort of enforcement tool? Does anyone have any experience of them, and how do the work? and how long are they for?

Hi, not been on here for years but randomly thought about they help i got on here when i was goin through very simliar issues to you, court process, etc. if u want any general advise from someone who has been through it ( hell and back ) but got out they other side winning :) i'm here

Hi, thank you very much. Please tell me your story...... on here or PM? don't mind, but I can't share much on here. I know the legal peeps are giving me the legal line, but I need some hope that justice does really prevail.