Anyone else feeling a bit weird about Christmas this year?

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normally we spend it with family but my parents will be away staying with my borther and his family, rest of family are at the other end of the country so it's me and DC thsi year for the first time ever. I know it will be chilled out and relaxed but I love doing the meal and feel it'sgonna be just like any other sunday roast this year - bog standard and me telling DC off for using fingers, picking at each other etc. Feeling a wee bit down about it. Anyone else or am I just being a nah humbug? Christmas is normally my favourite time of year!

DD's are at ExP's. It is the first year since we split, and Sunday is his usual day with them. So for the first time ever it is just me and DS, then we are having 2nd Christmas on Boxing day with DD's.
It is the first time in years that I have actually looked forward to Christmas though, because I don't have to stress about DC's doing something to annoy ExP. So although the actual day is going to be a bit hard (we are going for dinner at a friends, so it shouldn't be too weirdly quiet) the rest of it I am soooo looking forward to. We did the tree yesterday, and it is snowing

I know I've been trying to tell myself that Pjs and DVDs all day will be great and we don't need to faff about with 'best outfits' etc, but I've been ill and that's all we've done the last 2 weekends!! I did ask DCs if they wanted something other than turkey and dd asked for lobster and DS for pizza... recently moved so a bit far away from life long friends and those around us are all busy with family. Just feeling a bit 'pah' about it all!! But I'm sure it will be good - DC will be excited about their presents and I'll get them a few DVds we can all watch and some new family games too. Our tree is up - thanks to my lovely parents who helped out as I wasn't well!

Bah humbug ,
I haven't thought about it all in great detail, but when DCs do their christmas lists I'm going to ask them to put down other things they'd like to do. No I won't be serving up the turkey and trimmings malarkey when it's just us. What will make it great is that we'll hang around together, eat chocolates and just have a nice day - a better than normal weekend as they'll be no school or getting up around the immediate corner. I might steer them towards some old Xmassy film and I'll have a or two, but we have no expectations to live up to which is what is going to make it so good.

Christmas is just me and 6 yo DS and has been for last 3 Christmases. My family are on the other side of the world (note to self, nice jarmies for the Skype chat).

Best thing about not having family or ex to please is being able to do anything you want! Read the Christmas posts on Am I Being Unreasonable and dance with delight it not having to accommodate anyone else's needs!

Think I am with struw and fanny really

Second christmas since split and dc are with him this christmas 23 to late pm of the 25th.

Maybe on the day I will feel a bit sad but agree loving not having to stress about anything or strive for perfection

I think the whole divorce has toughened me up beyond recognition as I used to feel everything had to be just so for xmas , suppose the dc being 12 and 15 helps too