So...

[SaggyHairyArse]

...you email him to tell him that it is his DC3's nativity on Wednesday morning, fine he says. You take the ticket to him on the Sunday, thanks he says. You text him the morning of the nativity and ask him to video it, yes he says.

Does he turn up? No.

So sorry Saggy. Hope DC3 wasn't too upset. Share your pain. Been here & ticked this box.
My cynical, heart-hardened position these days is rely on him for nothing, expect nothing & very occasionally both the DCs and I are pleasantly surprised.

I second the approach of expecting nothing.
Then if the XP does something he should or coughs up some child support, it's a little bonus.

Sorry about your son's nativity

Sorry Saggy. It's crap - especially when you've not gone to the event because you're relying on him to be there for the child.

soggy i have to go with the opinion of expect nothing, it's still crap for you and your dc's though.

On the plus side they can occasionally change, xh has suddenly decided to be involved this year, and has attended both parents evenings and says he will be at dd's nativity (she's MARY ) fingers crossed for you yours can change too!

Sorry to hear that, how did DC cope? My ex promised DS last year he would go to concert and then didn't, I was away so unable to go.