Jesus..I had no idea until today..

[molepom]

at what a wanker exp actually is.

Told him that the kids are having a mate round, and stayed overnight. What he said next is unbelieveable.

Not only does say he I'm seeing the boys father, he then takes the piss out of the fact that he is austistic DESPITE reminding him that OUR son may possibly be autistic too and already had learning difficulties that have been diagnosed..

WANKER. What the hell did I see in him?

A lot of us end up saying exactly that...!
My ex takes the piss out of things like that. He tried to take the piss out of me for being epileptic. As lone parents we can at least say we escaped these people, just a shame our children have to put up with them still sometimes! It sounds like your ex has a touch of the green eyed monster too. Very common that!

Greeneyed monster, what? for having a life?

Mind you, that would be about right. Doesnt like me talking about great weekends I'm having but never fails to boast about shit he may or may not have done and his so called plans, and stuff he's bought..I could go on forever.

Between him and The Fling they've put me off blokes for life a long time.

Shorten your contact/conversations with him - I try to encourage ex to only discuss DS with me and vice versa. And polite small talk (work, weather traffic). He doesn't need to know what I've been up to and I've no interest in his life either! That would cut down on his opportunity for bragging and crass insensitive comments!

I have 'I can't believe I was with him' moments too. Then I do a little dance that I left him!

I agree. No personal chats, just keep it to arrangements concerning the kids.

And if he does say something that gets your goat, don't react, like water off a duck's back... (leave it for later screaming into your cushion

Remember, the only thing you still have in common is the kids. So leave it at that. Give him only the bare info. Date, Day, time, etc.

Don't engage! you can use that as your mantra

I dont usually, but that day the laptop had to be in the same room as the kids (battery needs replacing - just waiting for it to be delivered) as it needed to be plugged into the mains, and I'm not dragging out the sideboard to un plugg that.
So I had to be polite and nicey nicey as the kids were listening.

Normally, it's:

Hi
you there?
yeah
I'll get the kids.

when kids have finished

quick update on how the kids are doing
not really listen to him compare how great Aus is to the crappy uk
Not listen to shit he's bought
quick talk about the weather (again him comparing it)

Bye.

Can you do a fake laugh? I mean a really hearty slap-my-thigh pretend laugh? Try it, wipe the laughter tears from your eyes then still giggling shut the bloody door. Slowly.

Sometimes.

It's more efforst than he's worth really. If I just sit there and not say anything that's usually the best reaction. That and he think skype is playing up so I get to hang up on him a little earlier. God bless skype and the shit service.

..ok, so given that he is in aus, slowly draw the phone away from you, still gurgling with giggles, then put it in the bread bin. get on with nice life.

Is he in Australia?

He's trying to make you jealous, who is he convincing that life is so much better then?

Just pull the plug when you've had enough. Easy.

I'm so glad my ex is also out of the country and the continent. Don't have to put up with all his bullshit.