NRP - Should he still contribute finacially?

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My ds who is 2.9 stays with his dad 2 nights a week. Do you think his dad/my Ex-p should still contribute financially by giving me a sum of money for ds every month or is his 2 night a week contribution enough?

I know what I think, but wanted some other opinions too and I also know what ex-p will say. He was contributing financially on a monthly basis, but that has now stopped.

I think there is a formula for calculating child maintainance that has a basic personal allowance and then a deduction for resident nights on the CSA website.

If he earns enough then he should still be contributing but if he is like my ex who earns very little he may not have to.

Legally - yes, as foolonthehill says, there's a formula - it takes 2/7th off the total if they have them 2 nights a week. I think the total they start with is around 15% of whatever he earns for 1DC. The CSA website has a calculator that works it out for you.

Morally - yes too. DS is 50% his responsibility so why should he only pay for 2/7th of the food, etc? Plus there are lots of other expenses (clothes, toys, school things, etc) that presumably you pay for which he ought to be contributing to.

Make it clear that you do value his 2 nights a week, but still think something ought to be paid too.

OP, as an NRP I'd say it's best to start with the CSA calc as it's based on a third party view and not yr or XP's views.

A rough guess would be 15% of his net wage minus 2/7th , although I have a feeling the reduction for two nights a week isn't twice the amount for one.

On the matter of toys, clothes etc that purple mentions, I'd just point out that some NRPs will also be buying toys, clothes, beds and bedding etc. etc as well as the expense of another room for dc.

I only see my dd every other w/e but that doesn't mean I want her to have a couple of old toys, the odd book and a riketty old bed to sleep on.

Fully realize many won't make the effort though.

Thanks for your posts. He does buy toys, shoes and clothes for ds reasonably regularly. Will check on CSA website but have an idea that as he's self-employed his net income may not be that much and I will likely end up with nowt.

At least he cares about ds and is actively involved in his life.

(I think I'll have to look on the bright side).

My ExP is self employed too, and he has 2DD's 2 nights and all day Sunday every week. I didn't go down CSA route as I saw his reaction when his ExW did, and was trying to keep it amicable... I came up with a figure based on what I knew he could afford (I used to do his bookkeeping, so knew where he stood financially) and he agreed. I have since done the guide calcs on CsA website, and he is paying less than half what they would have said, but I know he would have struggled to pay that. I figured a wee bit that I know he can afford to pay would be better all round. He also buys them lots of toys, and has clothes, shoes etc at his, and takes them out to cinema/soft play/wildlife park etc every weekend, none of which he could d for them if he was giving it all to me.
It might be worth looking at the guide thing and then discussing? Nothing ventured nothing gained.

OK so I've just checked CSA website and based on an estimated net weekly income for Ex-P, he should contribute. The amount would be enough to make a fair old difference. So thanks froggies.