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Preparing to gloat.... In a grown up way

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froggies · 22/11/2011 19:01

This weekend DD's went to ExP's as usual, he lives next door. DS wandered off down the road to his pals late morning, everything was peaceful and I was busy.
Mid afternoon ExP knocks on the door, obviously peed off about something. He tells me that someone has thrown an egg at his van and there is dog poo up his drive.... I look at him.... Well it is nothing to do with me, DS has been out all day and I haven't seen anyone.... He repeats himself, obviously blaming DS for this and getting more annoyed. I repeat that it wasn't me, DS has been out all day, and I haven't seen anyone.... He starts again, so I say see ya and close the door. He bangs on the door again....I ignore it. He storms out of my garden pulling over the folded patio table that was propped against the wall as goes past, and slams my gate.
Now, technically, DS could have done it.... But he left in a cheery mood, and unless he found an egg on the way past our house (we have chickens so it is possible, but I haven't found any for ages due to the nights drawing in), I don't think he had any eggs with him. Also, DS is totally aware of how ExP is likely to react if provoked, and even when ExP has done things that have got DS raging, he has always been very careful not to provoke him, and this hasn't happened for a couple of weeks anyway.... So I can't see it having been him.
When DS got home, I asked him about it... He was calm, asked if he could laugh.... Didn't get defensive, so I really don't think it was him
When DD's came home, they both told me that DS had egged Dad's van. Then ExP put a rather unpleasant post on FB basically telling me to grow up and that DS was to blame.
DS came home today, having spoken to kids at school... And gave me a name of someone he has had issues with re bullying in the past.... The word is this kid did it...
Tomorrow I will phone school. I have had issues with DS not being truthful in the past, so I am not in full gloat mode yet, I will let school do their thing.
I really hope DS is telling the truth, and that the kids have to write an apology of some description to ExP. Not that I expect any apology from him, especially not a public one like on FB or anything, but oh I anticipate a wee bit of satisfaction just knowing :-)

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IndoorGardener · 22/11/2011 21:49

Your violent ex lives next door? How awful for you!

So, he's blaming your DS for the egging, but it seems the egging may have been committed by someone who used to bully your DS. And the ex will look a fool for having blamed your DS.

froggies · 22/11/2011 22:37

I tend to use the terms angry, controlling, verbally aggressive.... In his words I am not abusive, I have never hit you Hmm and yes, he lives next door. No, it is not easy, but I choose to stick with it for now, not for ever.

Really, if it turns out it was this other boy, I would like him to apologise to me for blaming DS, and explain to DD's that he was wrong. However I know he has issues with apologising, because he is always right......

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IndoorGardener · 22/11/2011 22:57

Ha, not abusive? He needs a good kicking mirror. Yeah, I know the type, so I guess you're not holding your breath till you (and your poor DS!) get an apology.

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