How not to talk to a lone/full time working mum

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1. When a lone/working full time mum tells you that they regularly take their child round to their dad parents for a day at the weekend so they can spend some time with their grandparents, don't say "oh really? you don't spend a lot of your time with your DD then do you?"

1. When a lone/full time working mum says she would love to have another child one day, don't say "really? like you'd be ok leaving them both in childcare all day?"

1. When lone/full time working mum informs you, leader of the NCT group that she can't attend mid-week meet up, don't say "it's such a shame your DD can't come, we're going to have the best time ever and I know you don't take her out much as you're at work can't you wing it?"

1. Ex PiL - don't keep saying "why DO you work? Are you sure DD enjoys her nursery? She probably wants to be with you I would have thought"

As if the guilt doesn't get me enough I do not need you lot making comments. Grrrrrr some people don't think before they open their mouths. Im new here and needed a rant :(

1. If the previously FT working lone mum goes part time, don't say, 'OH WOW, I am SOOOO happy for you, that is the best news EVER', as if they have just been pardoned from Death Row.

and on that note

1. don't keep asking them when they are going to request part time working.....yeah you think I haven't thought of that...if I could afford it?!

Oo im sensitive today..... thanks for that :)

1. Don't advise the working mum that they need time for themselves with a patronising worried expression.

1. Don't adopt an expression similar to one used when somebody has confessed to shoplifting when working mum dares to mention her job/colleagues/works night out.

1. Don't say 'Yeah, I know how you feel. I'm practically a lone parent myself, my husband never helps with anything'

If single mum happens to mention that she's going on a night out, don't say 'You have the life of it don't you'....

unicorny I get no.7 from my GP. He's lovely but his sympathy won't pay my bills so I have to crack on.

Crikey there are som nobs around! Am I allowed to say to you all ere bloody good on you. You are doing right thing , I take my hat off to you all - and don't feel guilty?

I am a full time working mum. Tell people to mind their own business and not to worry themselves with yours OP. End of the day you're providing for your child. If you don;t who is going to?!

Number 9 gets my goat....I've had that said to me a few times over the years and it pisses me right off!!!!!

Ohh no. 9 annoys me too. I was out recently with some parents, all in couples except me when a friend of mine said to me as she has done a few times 'I know what it's like for you to be a single Mum as my DH often works in the evenings' I have to admit this time I snapped back 'I used to think that too until I became one and believe me its not the same at all'

I think you should do a search of the SAHM threads here and pick a few choice insults to throw back at aforesaid comment makers. "I would be so bored being a SAHM," seems to wind up the majority as far as I can see.

10. Never ever EVER try to get sympathy from a working lone parent if you have a nanny.

no missorinoco, the thing that winds up SAHM's is when a working mum says "oh you're so lucky you can afford to be at home with your kids", whistfully, before climbing into her BMW and driving home to her 4 bed house, never acknowledging her holidays abroad when the SAHM goes to a caravan and catches a bus

the grass is always greener

He he, I like it. I "work" three days a week. Grass is yellow all round here!

Number 9 does it for me........Particularly when posters use it to show how their DH doesnt help out...

My GP told me to take some time to go swimming to improve my back. I told him if I found the time to go swimming I would just have a lie down instead