access

[mummy20108]

Hi
Just wondering if anyones ex has taken them to court for access to their child and been denied access

Hi there. I am hoping this will happen for us for various reasons but we are right at the start of the process at the moment.

What's your story? Do you think there is a good reason for him being denied access?

Im not a lawyer or anything but I think its very unusual for access to be completely denied and even if direct supervised access is they allow indirect contact letters etc. You would have to have alot of evidence of abuse, violence towards the child etc to have it stopped.

I dont get how all this access works. It seems really difficult, i have tried to find out as much as i can online but seem to get no where. I have just seperated from my very violent husband and i now obviously want a divorce, but cant file for divorce for at least 2 years. But as soon as i can i will. I dont think the court are able to deny access to a child. Even when there has been agression, they are allowed access via a contact centre. But if it makes it easier, once you have gone to court, everything is down on paper. Also going through a contact centre means you will not have to see the other parent. I know its going to be hard, but we arent the only ones. When i was at school, i had a friend, kerry, whose mum moved her abroad to australia because her dad kept trying to snatch her despite what the courts had ruled. You are better off allowing supervised access. If you seem to be being reasonable the court is more likely to side with you. x

My ex played onto my hands and he got NI contact at all awarded, and he was told he couldn't apply again for 6 years without leave from court

It was hard, but I did it.

*no contact

How do you go about stopping them?

Hi Thanks for your replys, SaraSidle how did u get no contact awarded?

The ex had a documented history of violence/suicide threats/general disregard for normal behaviour parameters etc

He then failed to turn up to court a few times.... Seen as further abuse of me....and failed to keep to telephone contact too

Then got in more trouble regarding a girlfriend whilst our case was going on. Cafcass were excellent and he was awarded nothing.

Thats great news for you SaraSiddle obviously not the abuse but the outcome. This is what I am hoping for he has a documented history of violence/alcohol abuse/theft etc he has breached every bail condition, harassmnet order, injunction he's been given and obviously has no regard for the law or rules. How old is your little one?

Youngest was 6, the older ones said they didn't want to have contact so that was fine with the judge and cafcass.

my little ones 2 and she has no idea who he is