He sees her every 5-6wks> Picks DD up on saturdays late am and returns sunday am and no other contact between these 5-6 weekend gaps, not even a phonecall. At the beginning of the year we had an arrangement where he would have her for at least two nights every third weekend and that worked quite well for about 3 months but for the past 5-6 months he is seeing less of her.
She will be five soon and did not want to see him before he picked her up for their recent time together. She was in tears the night and morning before he arrived and I told her he really wanted to spend time with her and that I was sure she would have a good time. But on her return she broke down in tears again and asked me why she has to see him when she doesnt want to and said she doesnt like him.
After putting her to bed that night she woke up around 2am absolutely sobbing and holding me so tight and saying she doesnt want to see him and that she doesnt like him. It took about an hour to settle her. I don't know what to do.
The situation is made even worse by the fact that everytime they have been together they have been staying with different friends of his because he says he is homeless and staying on his sisters couch. But this doesnt even end there because one of these weekends he said they will be staying with his sister my daughter came back saying that she slept in her room in his house. So not sure how true the homeless thing is. I doubt it very much.
Not sure if this is just a strategy to get out of spending time with her. Contact has always been difficult because he has always had a reason (Situation) preventing contact to be constant. But if I raise this somehow its always my fault or he will try to start an argument about something else that has no relevance. I really don't know how best to approach this.
Im worried for my DD but don't want them to lose contact. The problem is he knows this and so can do pretty much anything he likes because he knows I would never refuse contact but I think it needs to be more regular. I have always maintained this but he wants to keep things flexible.
Losing sleep because I really don't know what to do :(:(HELP!!