EXdh and i seem to be managing things fairly amicably so far, though its early days. i can see inlaws putting a spanner in the works though - they are not really close to exdh, though none of them admit it, and i think they are panicking that they will not see dc, though have never really been there for them / us. its hard to explain unless youve been in this sitn but i almost feel like they are going to take them away from me...i dont want to ban them from seeing dc but they are so negative and critical that i really feel they could damage the children emotionally if they see them if im not around to oversee things. They are in denial re the way they act / talk and exdh wont say anything because he doesnt want to rock the boat. i feel like hes more worried about the welfare of his parents than dc.