what does everyone do about parents evening?

[workshy]

my ex when we were together never attended a parents evening but since we split it's the most important thing in the world

last year was the first since we split and at the time we had a fairly amicable relationship

this year we can't even look at each other!!!

I've asked him if he would like to come or is he happy for me to relay the info, and he has come back with he will go and relay the info to me

there is no way I'm not going to parents evening so how would you guys handle this situation?

Gillybean it's not a private school but they say one appointment only. You can arrange to see teachers at other times of course if necessary but not as part of parents evening. They have a rubbish communication system which can only have one parent's details in it. So when DSS was living with his mum, DH would receive no information at all from school, even though he requested many many times. He would occasionally get copy of school report but nothing else. It really is very poor. One of the many reasons why we are considering him switching schools next year (against his mother's wishes, unfortunately).

ladydeedy write to the head teacher asking for confirmation of their policy on this matter and ask for a response within 2 weeks. Then write to the governors and ask that they review their policy to ensure it complies with the legal requirements to provide the information to separated parents when requested. That's assuming they even have one. If they don't you need to ask them to urgently review this and put a policy in place to ensure they meet their legal requirements...

For DD's 1st parent's evening I requested 2 appointments as I couldn't go to the evening session as no sitter (and can't have a proper chat when DD there) and ex works shifts so can't make an early appointment. He usually has to have the last appointment so he has chance to make it. Since then, ex has been given the chance to have his own appointment as I get the early one, and doesn't bother. My reasons to needing 2 appointments are nothing to do with acrimony, just practicality. I get early, he can only do late. It shouldn't be difficult to ask for, and get, 2 appointments.

Thank you for that advice gillybean2 - am going to get on to it.

Very judgemental..
Let me guess you've never been in that situation..no thought not... sometimes it's best for the child to not have contact . especially when one parent is a narcissist...