Separated from ex (not my ds father but been there since she was tiny)

[Lianneroll]

Me an my partner separated over a month ago, my ds still questions as to where he is an when he is coming back constantly, she is 2 an a half (she was 9mths old when I got wiv him an they were very close, her dad has never been around at all) I've explained to her that he is not coming back but she doesn't seem to understand. She wakes allot in night crying which she never did b4 I'm worried what affect this will have on her long term. Any advice would be much appreciated

Long term she will be fine.

thanks :)

Eh?

Sorry lol changed my profile name !! Bit of a stupid thing to do half way thro a post oops sorry

I think you need to give your daughter lots of hugs and reassurance that you love her and won't leave her too. She also needs to know that it wasn't her fault your partner left. If after a couple more weeks she doesn't settle I would consult her GP. Children of this age are too young for counselling but through parent counselling parents may be assisted in supporting their children.

I take it he's not seeing her at all? In which case I would say time is a great healer & she will forget about him.

going through the same thing, i posted a topic, instead of callig for dad when she spends time with him she thinks im leaving her, and keeps crying missing me, clingnin to me, resulting in her thinkin im nt gna come back,
poor little mite:( give her lots of cuddles and hugs reassure her that everyine loves her and how special and important she is,
good luck, fair play to u, its hard, sure ur doin a great job x

Any chance of her and your ex partner meeting up? Can she talk to him on the phone? If he was living with you then it's going to take a lot of getting used to for her. Have you spoken with him about it?

thank you for your messages, no chance of him seeing her unfortunatly. it is really hard to see her suffer. he was a very big part of most of her life. he was living with us and then suddenly (for her) he wasnt anymore.
im sure your right RedHelenB time is a great healer.
thanks agaian for comments