Separated in April, and the dcs have been staying with their dad every other weekend. Ds got his dx for asd just over a month ago, but we've known about it for a few years.
Exp has handed in his notice at work, will be working freelance from September. This will mean working away a lot, often a few weekends in a row. When he told me, I said he could do what he liked with his life, but it was not to affect the kids, and that he would need to work around what Ds needed. Ie. routine. We argued. Then he texted me a few hours later to say he agreed that's best for Ds and he would stick to having them alteenate weekends, and work around that.
Today he said he's found somewhere new to live (currently at his mums), he loved me, wants to move here and live with us blah blah. I said no, so I've since had an answerphone message saying he's 'putting his foot down' and I will have to be flexible about when he sees the kids, its tough.
I'm so annoyed. I work so hard with ds, and i really the break when he goes to his dad's. And without the stability of knowing whether he's coming or going he's going to be unsettled, and even harder work. The timing is so bad too, ds about to start school. I've spent the last 15months doing everything I can to prepare him for school.Is there anything I can do? How does it work if you can't agree on contact arrangements- who decides?
Please excuse spelling mistakes, on my phone.