I wrote a message on here a while back, me and the OH werent getting on too well, alot of money issues, attitudes towards it totally different.
Anyway after him saying he was gonna move out a good few times and not acting on it, I sat down and had a chat with him. We decided to have a trial seperation, get some space, maybe sort money abit. He said he still loved me and wanted things to work but knew it was best to have a bit of space, if all went well and we started getting on better once a few stresses where solved we'd think about giving it another go, maybe see a relationship therapist.
Things were going alright, he still lived here and was looking about for a place, then he started banging on at me to call the council etc to claim what I needed and I didnt want to call them till he went, so that caused a few arguments.
Recently he's started acting a bit silly, bought a stupid car, even though we still have other loans to sort and then there was a girl came into question, he spent an afternoon out with her and then when on to pub with her, never even call me or kids, and there is a question mark over whether he stayed the night at hers.
Ive now told him theres no trial seperation bollocks, Im not gonna have the doubt and worry over whether he has/wants anything from this girl. He doesnt realise how hurtful it is for me, knowing he was out having a lovely afternoon with this woman he barely knows and ive never met, whilst Im stuck at home with the kids and his dog (who's a bit of a nightmare)
So thats it Im on my own, part of me feels relieved I dont have to put up with his crap anymore and part of me feels miserable about the whole thing.
He's moved out now and staying at a mates, but I dont know where he goes in the evenings, he comes to see the kids before they go to bed, but always seems in a hurry to go.
I may post on here alot as I dont see things going along the getting along civil lines as he seems to be going off the rails abit.